{"id":8802,"date":"2024-07-01T09:00:03","date_gmt":"2024-07-01T09:00:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=8802"},"modified":"2024-07-01T09:23:54","modified_gmt":"2024-07-01T09:23:54","slug":"is-ghosting-ever-ok","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=8802","title":{"rendered":"Is Ghosting Ever OK?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Therapists, researchers and an etiquette expert weigh in on when you can disappear with a clear conscience and the ways to get around it.<\/p>\n

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About a decade ago, Brenna Holeman was on the perfect first date with a man she\u2019d met on a dating app. It was a rainy night in a cozy London bar, and before the date even ended \u2014 with a kiss \u2014 they\u2019d breathlessly made plans for their next rendezvous.<\/p>\n

\u201cHe even texted me that night saying, \u2018I can\u2019t stop smiling,\u2019\u201d recalled Ms. Holeman, 40, a travel writer now based in Canada. He also wrote, \u201cI can\u2019t wait to see you again,\u201d she added.<\/p>\n

But when she texted to confirm the timing for their next date, there was radio silence.<\/p>\n

Ghosting, the popular term for cutting off all communication without explanation, has become an inescapable part of modern dating. And it can be even harder to stomach than flat-out rejection, psychologists and researchers said, because it involves uncertainty.<\/p>\n

Elizabeth Earnshaw, a licensed marriage and family therapist in Philadelphia, said people who have been ghosted \u201cstart to question their reality.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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\u201cThey\u2019re looking back and saying: \u2018Where did I miss the signs? What is wrong with me that I thought we had so much fun on our last date?\u2019\u201d Ms. Earnshaw said.<\/p>\n

She has seen many clients \u2014 of various ages, genders and sexual orientations \u2014 grappling with a \u201ccrisis of self-esteem\u201d after being repeatedly ghosted. But in a fast-paced world of dating apps and endless options, is it ever OK to ghost?<\/p>\n

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Therapists, researchers and an etiquette expert weigh in on when you can disappear with a clear conscience and the ways to get around it.Alexis JametAbout a decade ago, Brenna Holeman was on the perfect first date with a man she\u2019d met on a dating app. It was a rainy night in a cozy London bar, and before the date even ended \u2014 with a kiss \u2014 they\u2019d breathlessly made plans for their next rendezvous.\u201cHe even texted me that night saying, \u2018I can\u2019t stop smiling,\u2019\u201d recalled Ms. Holeman, 40, a travel writer now based in Canada. He also wrote, \u201cI can\u2019t wait to see you again,\u201d she added.But when she texted to confirm the timing for their next date, there was radio silence.Ghosting, the popular term for cutting off all communication without explanation, has become an inescapable part of modern dating. And it can be even harder to stomach than flat-out rejection, psychologists and researchers said, because it involves uncertainty.Elizabeth Earnshaw, a licensed marriage and family therapist in Philadelphia, said people who have been ghosted \u201cstart to question their reality.\u201d\u201cThey\u2019re looking back and saying: \u2018Where did I miss the signs? What is wrong with me that I thought we had so much fun on our last date?\u2019\u201d Ms. Earnshaw said.She has seen many clients \u2014 of various ages, genders and sexual orientations \u2014 grappling with a \u201ccrisis of self-esteem\u201d after being repeatedly ghosted. But in a fast-paced world of dating apps and endless options, is it ever OK to ghost?We are having trouble retrieving the article content.Please enable JavaScript in your browser settings.Thank you for your patience while we verify access. If you are in Reader mode please exit and\u00a0log into\u00a0your Times account, or\u00a0subscribe\u00a0for all of The Times.Thank you for your patience while we verify access.Already a subscriber?\u00a0Log in.Want all of The Times?\u00a0Subscribe.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":8804,"comment_status":"close","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-8802","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-lifestyle"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8802","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=8802"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8802\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8805,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8802\/revisions\/8805"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/8804"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=8802"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=8802"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=8802"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}