{"id":7523,"date":"2024-06-10T22:00:03","date_gmt":"2024-06-10T22:00:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=7523"},"modified":"2024-06-10T22:22:58","modified_gmt":"2024-06-10T22:22:58","slug":"the-friendship-challenge-how-to-refresh-your-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=7523","title":{"rendered":"The Friendship Challenge: How to Refresh Your Relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"<div><\/div>\n<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\"><em class=\"css-2fg4z9 e1gzwzxm0\">This is Day 2 of the 5-Day Friendship Challenge. To start at the beginning, <\/em><a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/explain\/2024\/friendship-challenge\" title><em class=\"css-2fg4z9 e1gzwzxm0\">click here<\/em><\/a>.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">We\u2019ve all got them: work friends, college buddies, playground dads. Whatever you call them, they\u2019re the discrete groups of friends from different facets of our lives. Even our <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2023\/04\/22\/health\/seniors-acquaintances-happiness.html\" title>\u201cweak ties\u201d<\/a> seem to exist only in certain settings, like the neighbors you nod at while walking the dog, or the barista who has memorized your coffee order.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">But there is value in decompartmentalizing such friendships, said Marisa G. Franco, a psychologist and the author of \u201cPlatonic,\u201d a book about making and keeping friends. Research has found that connecting in different settings or contexts can help bring friends closer, she added.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"css-1u37br4 eoo0vm40\" id=\"link-3c159df2\">Friendship Challenge Day 2: \u2018Repot\u2019 a friendship.<\/h2>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">\u201cRepot\u201d is a term coined by Ryan Hubbard, who heads up Hinterland, a social lab that has generated reports on friendship. And it\u2019s simple: Think of friends you tend to interact with in one setting. Then invite them to join you for something else.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Ask a colleague you usually gossip with on Slack to sneak out to a matinee with you. Ask a friend you normally meet for dinner to join you for a walk through a museum. Or maybe raise the stakes a bit and invite a friend on an overnight trip \u2014 you really get to know someone once you\u2019ve hung out together in your PJs, Dr. Franco said \u2014 or to try something totally new to you both. (<a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2024\/01\/11\/style\/clown-cardio-exercise-class.html\" title>Clown cardio<\/a>, anyone?)<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Dr. Franco pointed to research showing that <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2024\/03\/28\/well\/live\/adult-friendships-vacation.html\" title>sharing unusual or extraordinary experiences<\/a> can sometimes help bring people together. And researchers who study romantic love have long known that <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/profile\/Elaine-Aron\/publication\/12609069_Couples%27_shared_participation_in_novel_and_arousing_activities_and_experienced_relationship_quality\/links\/5577bd0f08aeacff20004ef3\/Couples-shared-participation-in-novel-and-arousing-activities-and-experienced-relationship-quality.pdf\" title rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">novelty can nourish<\/a> relationships. But it\u2019s not all about finding activities that are unconventional or adventurous.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">You can repot a relationship by asking a friend for help, Dr. Franco said, or ask if that person wants to meet your family, something we do naturally all the time as kids. You can also \u201cintegrate\u201d your friendships, inviting people who don\u2019t know each other to meet up.<\/p>\n<div class=\"css-1336jj\">\n<div class=\"css-121kum4\">\n<div class=\"css-171d1bw\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"css-asuuk5\">\n<div class=\"css-7axq9l\" data-testid=\"optimistic-truncator-noscript\">\n<div data-testid=\"optimistic-truncator-noscript-message\" class=\"css-6yo1no\">\n<p class=\"css-3kpklk\">We are having trouble retrieving the article content.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-3kpklk\">Please enable JavaScript in your browser settings.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"css-1dv1kvn\" id=\"optimistic-truncator-a11y\">\n<hr \/>\n<p>Thank you for your patience while we verify access. 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To start at the beginning, click here.We\u2019ve all got them: work friends, college buddies, playground dads. Whatever you call them, they\u2019re the discrete groups of friends from different facets of our lives. Even our \u201cweak ties\u201d seem to exist only in certain settings, like the neighbors you nod at while walking the dog, or the barista who has memorized your coffee order.But there is value in decompartmentalizing such friendships, said Marisa G. Franco, a psychologist and the author of \u201cPlatonic,\u201d a book about making and keeping friends. Research has found that connecting in different settings or contexts can help bring friends closer, she added.Friendship Challenge Day 2: \u2018Repot\u2019 a friendship.\u201cRepot\u201d is a term coined by Ryan Hubbard, who heads up Hinterland, a social lab that has generated reports on friendship. And it\u2019s simple: Think of friends you tend to interact with in one setting. Then invite them to join you for something else.Ask a colleague you usually gossip with on Slack to sneak out to a matinee with you. Ask a friend you normally meet for dinner to join you for a walk through a museum. Or maybe raise the stakes a bit and invite a friend on an overnight trip \u2014 you really get to know someone once you\u2019ve hung out together in your PJs, Dr. Franco said \u2014 or to try something totally new to you both. (Clown cardio, anyone?)Dr. Franco pointed to research showing that sharing unusual or extraordinary experiences can sometimes help bring people together. And researchers who study romantic love have long known that novelty can nourish relationships. But it\u2019s not all about finding activities that are unconventional or adventurous.You can repot a relationship by asking a friend for help, Dr. Franco said, or ask if that person wants to meet your family, something we do naturally all the time as kids. 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