{"id":7467,"date":"2024-06-09T21:54:50","date_gmt":"2024-06-09T21:54:50","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=7467"},"modified":"2024-06-09T22:24:45","modified_gmt":"2024-06-09T22:24:45","slug":"the-friendship-challenge-the-health-benefits-of-texting-your-friends","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=7467","title":{"rendered":"The Friendship Challenge: The Health Benefits of Texting Your Friends"},"content":{"rendered":"
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I\u2019m Catherine Pearson, and I cover families and relationships for The New York Times. Today, I\u2019m making the case for something many of us have a love-hate relationship with: texting.<\/p>\n

Recently, I was having a lousy day. My husband was out of town, and the kids were fighting nonstop. Just as I was about to threaten my 6- and 9-year-old boys with boarding school, a text popped up on my phone. It was from Miranda, a high-school friend whom I catch up with only a couple of times a year. She had texted simply to tell me she\u2019d been thinking about me \u2014 it probably took her 30 seconds to write, and it took me even less time to read. But her message lifted me right out of my funk.<\/p>\n

Ample research shows that social connection is crucial to our physical and mental health<\/a> and longevity<\/a>. It is good for our brains and hearts, and helps protect us against stress. One oft-quoted 2010 study concluded that lacking social connection might be comparable to smoking up to 15 cigarettes<\/a> a day.<\/p>\n

Friendship is a very specific and valuable form of social connection, said Julianne Holt-Lunstad, the lead author on the cigarette study and director of the Social Connection and Health Lab at Brigham Young University. \u201cIt\u2019s difficult to be choosy about your neighbors or co-workers. You\u2019re born into your family,\u201d she explained. \u201cFriendships are chosen and, because of that, we need to intentionally make time for them.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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Putting in the effort to maintain friendships may feel like a heavy lift, and to a certain extent it is. Research suggests people need to spend around 200 hours hanging out together in order to forge a close friendship<\/a>. Unfortunately, the amount of time Americans spend engaged with friends every day has declined over the past two decades<\/a>.<\/p>\n

The good news? Research also shows that smaller efforts can help established friendships flourish. A 2022 study<\/a> found that when you casually check in with a friend \u2014 the way Miranda did with that text \u2014 it\u2019s more welcome than many of us realize.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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I\u2019m Catherine Pearson, and I cover families and relationships for The New York Times. Today, I\u2019m making the case for something many of us have a love-hate relationship with: texting.Recently, I was having a lousy day. My husband was out of town, and the kids were fighting nonstop. Just as I was about to threaten my 6- and 9-year-old boys with boarding school, a text popped up on my phone. It was from Miranda, a high-school friend whom I catch up with only a couple of times a year. She had texted simply to tell me she\u2019d been thinking about me \u2014 it probably took her 30 seconds to write, and it took me even less time to read. But her message lifted me right out of my funk.Ample research shows that social connection is crucial to our physical and mental health and longevity. It is good for our brains and hearts, and helps protect us against stress. One oft-quoted 2010 study concluded that lacking social connection might be comparable to smoking up to 15 cigarettes a day.Friendship is a very specific and valuable form of social connection, said Julianne Holt-Lunstad, the lead author on the cigarette study and director of the Social Connection and Health Lab at Brigham Young University. \u201cIt\u2019s difficult to be choosy about your neighbors or co-workers. You\u2019re born into your family,\u201d she explained. \u201cFriendships are chosen and, because of that, we need to intentionally make time for them.\u201dPutting in the effort to maintain friendships may feel like a heavy lift, and to a certain extent it is. Research suggests people need to spend around 200 hours hanging out together in order to forge a close friendship. Unfortunately, the amount of time Americans spend engaged with friends every day has declined over the past two decades.The good news? Research also shows that smaller efforts can help established friendships flourish. A 2022 study found that when you casually check in with a friend \u2014 the way Miranda did with that text \u2014 it\u2019s more welcome than many of us realize.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":7469,"comment_status":"close","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-7467","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-lifestyle"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7467","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=7467"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7467\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":7470,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7467\/revisions\/7470"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/7469"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=7467"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=7467"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=7467"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}