{"id":7080,"date":"2024-05-31T09:05:28","date_gmt":"2024-05-31T09:05:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=7080"},"modified":"2024-05-31T09:25:25","modified_gmt":"2024-05-31T09:25:25","slug":"your-partner-is-ignoring-a-health-issue-now-what","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=7080","title":{"rendered":"Your Partner is Ignoring a Health Issue. Now What?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Using guilt and pressure rarely help, experts say.<\/p>\n

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When I received a notice from my doctor to schedule my first colonoscopy<\/a>, I put it off for nearly two years. I didn\u2019t relish the idea of bowel prep<\/a>, and I was nervous the procedure would hurt.<\/p>\n

As the months rolled on, my husband pleaded with me to make the appointment. I ignored him, so, in desperation, he enlisted my no-nonsense mother.<\/p>\n

\u201cHey there!\u201d she hollered at me over the phone. \u201cYou know what\u2019s worse than drinking laxatives for a day? Cancer!\u201d<\/p>\n

Many experts \u2014 both psychologists and primary care physicians \u2014 told me that they see this a lot with couples: One partner refuses or delays dealing with a health problem, and it makes the other frustrated and resentful.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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Those neglecting their health can feel judged as \u201clazy or careless or indulgent or risky,\u201d said Alexandra Solomon, a clinical psychologist at the Family Institute at Northwestern University.<\/p>\n

Meanwhile, the other person can come off as, \u201cI\u2019m sitting over here with my apples and my bananas and my annual mammogram,\u201d she explained. \u201cIt\u2019s you that\u2019s the hot mess.\u201d<\/p>\n

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Using guilt and pressure rarely help, experts say.When I received a notice from my doctor to schedule my first colonoscopy, I put it off for nearly two years. I didn\u2019t relish the idea of bowel prep, and I was nervous the procedure would hurt.As the months rolled on, my husband pleaded with me to make the appointment. I ignored him, so, in desperation, he enlisted my no-nonsense mother.\u201cHey there!\u201d she hollered at me over the phone. \u201cYou know what\u2019s worse than drinking laxatives for a day? Cancer!\u201dMany experts \u2014 both psychologists and primary care physicians \u2014 told me that they see this a lot with couples: One partner refuses or delays dealing with a health problem, and it makes the other frustrated and resentful.Those neglecting their health can feel judged as \u201clazy or careless or indulgent or risky,\u201d said Alexandra Solomon, a clinical psychologist at the Family Institute at Northwestern University.Meanwhile, the other person can come off as, \u201cI\u2019m sitting over here with my apples and my bananas and my annual mammogram,\u201d she explained. \u201cIt\u2019s you that\u2019s the hot mess.\u201dWe are having trouble retrieving the article content.Please enable JavaScript in your browser settings.Thank you for your patience while we verify access. If you are in Reader mode please exit and\u00a0log into\u00a0your Times account, or\u00a0subscribe\u00a0for all of The Times.Thank you for your patience while we verify access.Already a subscriber?\u00a0Log in.Want all of The Times?\u00a0Subscribe.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":7082,"comment_status":"close","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-7080","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-lifestyle"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7080","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=7080"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7080\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":7083,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7080\/revisions\/7083"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/7082"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=7080"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=7080"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=7080"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}