{"id":6333,"date":"2024-05-17T14:09:51","date_gmt":"2024-05-17T14:09:51","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=6333"},"modified":"2024-05-17T14:26:21","modified_gmt":"2024-05-17T14:26:21","slug":"how-to-talk-about-sex-with-your-partner","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=6333","title":{"rendered":"How to Talk About Sex With Your Partner"},"content":{"rendered":"<div><\/div>\n<p id=\"article-summary\" class=\"css-1n0orw4 e1wiw3jv0\">Many couples find it hard to open up about their intimate lives, but these tips can guide the way.<\/p>\n<section class=\"meteredContent css-1r7ky0e\">\n<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">As a reporter who covers sex and intimacy, I spend a lot of time listening to experts extol the virtues of open, honest communication. To have good sex \u2014 and to keep having good sex over time \u2014 <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2023\/06\/12\/well\/family\/smart-sex-emily-morse.html\" title>couples must be willing to talk about it<\/a>, they say.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">But some people would rather leave their relationships than have those conversations, said Jeffrey Chernin, a marriage and family therapist and the author of \u201cAchieving Intimacy: How to Have a Loving Relationship That Lasts\u201d \u2014 especially if things in the bedroom aren\u2019t going particularly well.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">\u201cOne of the things I often say to couples who are having trouble is: \u2018I wish there was another way through this,\u2019\u201d he said. \u201cBut the only way I know to have a better sex life, or to resume your sex life, is to discuss it.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Dr. Chernin acknowledged how stressful those conversations can be, sometimes deteriorating into finger-pointing, belittling or stonewalling. That said, these suggestions may help.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<h2 class=\"css-kypbrf eoo0vm40\" id=\"link-78caaf1d\">Embrace the awkwardness.<\/h2>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">It\u2019s common for partners to have trouble talking about intimacy and desire. Research suggests that even in long-term relationships, people know <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC9153093\/\" title rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">only about 60 percent<\/a> of what their partner likes sexually, and only about 25 percent of what they don\u2019t like.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Cyndi Darnell, a sex and relationships therapist in New York City, said her patients frequently tell her that talking about sex is \u201cawkward\u201d \u2014 which is especially true \u201cif you\u2019ve spent months or years avoiding it,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n<div class=\"css-1336jj\">\n<div class=\"css-121kum4\">\n<div class=\"css-171d1bw\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"css-asuuk5\">\n<div class=\"css-7axq9l\" data-testid=\"optimistic-truncator-noscript\">\n<div data-testid=\"optimistic-truncator-noscript-message\" class=\"css-6yo1no\">\n<p class=\"css-3kpklk\">We are having trouble retrieving the article content.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-3kpklk\">Please enable JavaScript in your browser settings.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"css-1dv1kvn\" id=\"optimistic-truncator-a11y\">\n<hr \/>\n<p>Thank you for your patience while we verify access. 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To have good sex \u2014 and to keep having good sex over time \u2014 couples must be willing to talk about it, they say.But some people would rather leave their relationships than have those conversations, said Jeffrey Chernin, a marriage and family therapist and the author of \u201cAchieving Intimacy: How to Have a Loving Relationship That Lasts\u201d \u2014 especially if things in the bedroom aren\u2019t going particularly well.\u201cOne of the things I often say to couples who are having trouble is: \u2018I wish there was another way through this,\u2019\u201d he said. \u201cBut the only way I know to have a better sex life, or to resume your sex life, is to discuss it.\u201dDr. Chernin acknowledged how stressful those conversations can be, sometimes deteriorating into finger-pointing, belittling or stonewalling. That said, these suggestions may help.Embrace the awkwardness.It\u2019s common for partners to have trouble talking about intimacy and desire. Research suggests that even in long-term relationships, people know only about 60 percent of what their partner likes sexually, and only about 25 percent of what they don\u2019t like.Cyndi Darnell, a sex and relationships therapist in New York City, said her patients frequently tell her that talking about sex is \u201cawkward\u201d \u2014 which is especially true \u201cif you\u2019ve spent months or years avoiding it,\u201d she said.We are having trouble retrieving the article content.Please enable JavaScript in your browser settings.Thank you for your patience while we verify access. 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