{"id":4681,"date":"2024-04-21T09:00:16","date_gmt":"2024-04-21T09:00:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=4681"},"modified":"2024-04-21T09:26:01","modified_gmt":"2024-04-21T09:26:01","slug":"let-them-eat-everything","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=4681","title":{"rendered":"Let Them Eat \u2026 Everything"},"content":{"rendered":"
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The sheet-pan chicken and roasted broccoli are out of the oven, and white rice is steaming on the stove. Virginia Sole-Smith, who has spent a decade writing about how women think and feel about their bodies \u2014 and how they pass along those feelings to their children through food \u2014 is about to serve dinner to her daughters, Violet, 10, and Beatrix, 6.<\/p>\n

Sole-Smith tries not to be a short-order cook. \u201cRespect the labor,\u201d is how she puts it, reminding her children that if they don\u2019t like what she has prepared, there\u2019s other stuff to eat in the house. A pullout shelf in the pantry holds Tate\u2019s chocolate chip cookies, Goldfish crackers, pea snaps, and chocolate kisses. There are raspberries and grape tomatoes in the fridge.<\/p>\n

What Sole-Smith hopes to model, she said in a five-hour interview at her home in Cold Spring, N.Y., is \u201cthat you can be a mom who doesn\u2019t live solely in service of other people.\u201d That \u201cyou deserve time to yourself and that you\u2019re a person with needs, that those needs matter.\u201d<\/p>\n

She ferries the girls\u2019 plastic plates to the front-porch table, evading the miniature Bernedoodle, Penelope. A year ago, Sole-Smith published \u201cFat Talk: Parenting in the Age of Diet Culture,\u201d a guide to helping parents grapple with their discomfort and anxiety about weight and food. At the moment when Ozempic-like drugs are enabling people to become thin, Sole-Smith has become one of the country\u2019s most visible fat activists, calling out the bias and discrimination faced by people in bigger bodies, especially from doctors and research scientists.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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She asserts her own right to be \u201cfat,\u201d the preferred adjective in her corner of the internet. In Sole-Smith\u2019s house there are neither \u201cgood\u201d or \u201cbad\u201d foods nor \u201chealthy\u201d or \u201cunhealthy\u201d ones; doughnuts and kale hold equivalent moral value and no one polices portion size. By relieving herself and her family of rules about eating, Sole-Smith believes she will have a better chance of raising children who are proud of their bodies, trust themselves to enjoy their food and leave the table when they\u2019re full. She serves dessert and snacks, like Cheez-Its, along with the dinner entree; her kids can eat their meal in any order.<\/p>\n

\u201cFat Talk\u201d is, in a way, Sole-Smith\u2019s manifesto of liberation from what nutritionists call \u201cdiet culture\u201d: the enormous pressure American women, in particular, feel to be thin and to raise thin children. For many years, she covered health (including for The New York Times), and her reporting on the pursuit of thinness prompted her rejection of it.<\/p>\n

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The sheet-pan chicken and roasted broccoli are out of the oven, and white rice is steaming on the stove. Virginia Sole-Smith, who has spent a decade writing about how women think and feel about their bodies \u2014 and how they pass along those feelings to their children through food \u2014 is about to serve dinner to her daughters, Violet, 10, and Beatrix, 6.Sole-Smith tries not to be a short-order cook. \u201cRespect the labor,\u201d is how she puts it, reminding her children that if they don\u2019t like what she has prepared, there\u2019s other stuff to eat in the house. A pullout shelf in the pantry holds Tate\u2019s chocolate chip cookies, Goldfish crackers, pea snaps, and chocolate kisses. There are raspberries and grape tomatoes in the fridge.What Sole-Smith hopes to model, she said in a five-hour interview at her home in Cold Spring, N.Y., is \u201cthat you can be a mom who doesn\u2019t live solely in service of other people.\u201d That \u201cyou deserve time to yourself and that you\u2019re a person with needs, that those needs matter.\u201dShe ferries the girls\u2019 plastic plates to the front-porch table, evading the miniature Bernedoodle, Penelope. A year ago, Sole-Smith published \u201cFat Talk: Parenting in the Age of Diet Culture,\u201d a guide to helping parents grapple with their discomfort and anxiety about weight and food. At the moment when Ozempic-like drugs are enabling people to become thin, Sole-Smith has become one of the country\u2019s most visible fat activists, calling out the bias and discrimination faced by people in bigger bodies, especially from doctors and research scientists.She asserts her own right to be \u201cfat,\u201d the preferred adjective in her corner of the internet. In Sole-Smith\u2019s house there are neither \u201cgood\u201d or \u201cbad\u201d foods nor \u201chealthy\u201d or \u201cunhealthy\u201d ones; doughnuts and kale hold equivalent moral value and no one polices portion size. By relieving herself and her family of rules about eating, Sole-Smith believes she will have a better chance of raising children who are proud of their bodies, trust themselves to enjoy their food and leave the table when they\u2019re full. She serves dessert and snacks, like Cheez-Its, along with the dinner entree; her kids can eat their meal in any order.\u201cFat Talk\u201d is, in a way, Sole-Smith\u2019s manifesto of liberation from what nutritionists call \u201cdiet culture\u201d: the enormous pressure American women, in particular, feel to be thin and to raise thin children. For many years, she covered health (including for The New York Times), and her reporting on the pursuit of thinness prompted her rejection of it.We are having trouble retrieving the article content.Please enable JavaScript in your browser settings.Thank you for your patience while we verify access. If you are in Reader mode please exit and\u00a0log into\u00a0your Times account, or\u00a0subscribe\u00a0for all of The Times.Thank you for your patience while we verify access.Already a subscriber?\u00a0Log in.Want all of The Times?\u00a0Subscribe.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4683,"comment_status":"close","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4681","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-lifestyle"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4681","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=4681"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4681\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4684,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4681\/revisions\/4684"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/4683"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=4681"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=4681"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=4681"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}