{"id":35543,"date":"2025-10-06T15:16:13","date_gmt":"2025-10-06T15:16:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=35543"},"modified":"2025-10-10T06:25:01","modified_gmt":"2025-10-10T06:25:01","slug":"dating-when-you-want-to-have-a-baby","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=35543","title":{"rendered":"Dating When You Want to Have a Baby"},"content":{"rendered":"
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For some single women in their 30s and 40s, their biological clocks add unwelcome stress to an already fraught process.<\/p>\n

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In the past, Kelly Shara, 31, often found herself doing fertility math when she was on a date.<\/p>\n

\u201cOK, if we date for a year, then I\u2019ll be this age when we get married,\u201d explained Ms. Shara, who lives in Austin and works in tech sales. \u201cThen we have a year, and then we could start having kids. And then that means I\u2019ll be this age when I become a mom.\u201d<\/p>\n

She absorbed the message for years \u2014 \u201cfrom rom-coms and so much societal pressure\u201d \u2014 that she should be married and having babies by age 30, she said.<\/p>\n

For the most part, Ms. Shara now finds that expectation silly. She has great friends and a fulfilling career and is unwilling to settle for a partner who isn\u2019t a true teammate.<\/p>\n

If it weren\u2019t for her pesky biological clock.<\/p>\n

\u201cI would still love<\/em> to have kids on the soon-ish side,\u201d Ms. Shara said. \u201cBut there is an opportunity cost toward rushing dating and marriage and courtship and trying to find the right person.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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The stubborn notion that women\u2019s fertility falls off a cliff at 35 has slowly shifted in recent years, thanks to changing cultural norms and leaps in assisted reproductive technology. Despite growing alarm<\/a> among conservatives over the United States\u2019 historically low birthrate, women over 35 are actually giving birth in relatively large numbers. The birthrate among women 40 to 44 has even risen over the past four decades<\/a>.<\/p>\n

\u201cWith many celebrities becoming first-time parents later in life, it often gives the public the perception that fertility is something you can delay,\u201d said Dr. Natalie Crawford, a fertility doctor in Austin and the author of \u201cThe Fertility Formula.\u201d <\/p>\n

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For some single women in their 30s and 40s, their biological clocks add unwelcome stress to an already fraught process.In the past, Kelly Shara, 31, often found herself doing fertility math when she was on a date.\u201cOK, if we date for a year, then I\u2019ll be this age when we get married,\u201d explained Ms. Shara, who lives in Austin and works in tech sales. \u201cThen we have a year, and then we could start having kids. And then that means I\u2019ll be this age when I become a mom.\u201dShe absorbed the message for years \u2014 \u201cfrom rom-coms and so much societal pressure\u201d \u2014 that she should be married and having babies by age 30, she said.For the most part, Ms. Shara now finds that expectation silly. She has great friends and a fulfilling career and is unwilling to settle for a partner who isn\u2019t a true teammate.If it weren\u2019t for her pesky biological clock.\u201cI would still love to have kids on the soon-ish side,\u201d Ms. Shara said. \u201cBut there is an opportunity cost toward rushing dating and marriage and courtship and trying to find the right person.\u201dThe stubborn notion that women\u2019s fertility falls off a cliff at 35 has slowly shifted in recent years, thanks to changing cultural norms and leaps in assisted reproductive technology. Despite growing alarm among conservatives over the United States\u2019 historically low birthrate, women over 35 are actually giving birth in relatively large numbers. The birthrate among women 40 to 44 has even risen over the past four decades.\u201cWith many celebrities becoming first-time parents later in life, it often gives the public the perception that fertility is something you can delay,\u201d said Dr. Natalie Crawford, a fertility doctor in Austin and the author of \u201cThe Fertility Formula.\u201d We are having trouble retrieving the article content.Please enable JavaScript in your browser settings.Thank you for your patience while we verify access. If you are in Reader mode please exit and\u00a0log into\u00a0your Times account, or\u00a0subscribe\u00a0for all of The Times.Thank you for your patience while we verify access.Already a subscriber?\u00a0Log in.Want all of The Times?\u00a0Subscribe.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":35545,"comment_status":"close","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-35543","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-lifestyle"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/35543","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=35543"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/35543\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":35546,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/35543\/revisions\/35546"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/35545"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=35543"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=35543"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=35543"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}