{"id":34581,"date":"2025-08-13T09:00:41","date_gmt":"2025-08-13T09:00:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=34581"},"modified":"2025-08-19T11:23:04","modified_gmt":"2025-08-19T11:23:04","slug":"where-did-all-my-male-friendships-go","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=34581","title":{"rendered":"Where Did All My Male Friendships Go?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\" data-testid=\"companionColumn-0\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<div class=\"css-ms3zov\">\n<div class=\"css-14jae4t\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<h3 class=\"css-1vs5pxi e1gnsphs0\" id=\"link-2644e180\"><span><em class=\"css-2fg4z9 e1gzwzxm0\">Listen to and follow <\/em><a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/column\/modern-love-podcast\" title><em class=\"css-2fg4z9 e1gzwzxm0\">Modern Love<\/em><\/a><br \/><a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/modern-love\/id1065559535?mt=2\" title rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Apple Podcasts<\/a> | <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/03Er7mSPq9IEewOgbPD3vO?si=CYApBISZSoCH6AjwdiGsFw\" title rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Spotify<\/a> | <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/music.amazon.com\/podcasts\/c40b7b82-b31d-493d-ac33-273b39d153ca\/modern-love\" title rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Amazon Music<\/a> | <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/playlist?list=PLdMrbgYfVl-s2_KrR5DosEB0gqr4w-XZd\" title rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">YouTube<\/a> |<a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.iheart.com\/podcast\/560-modern-love-28288069\/\" title rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">iHeartRadio<\/a><\/span><\/h3>\n<h2 class=\"css-azseud eoo0vm40\" id=\"link-2fd2c68c\">\u201cHow did I let myself go for so many years without connecting to all these people who I love? How did I convince myself that that was the right path?\u201d<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div data-testid=\"ImageBlock-1\">\n<div data-testid=\"imageblock-wrapper\">\n<figure class=\"img-sz-medium css-mqw7kw e1g7ppur0\" aria-label=\"media\" role=\"group\">\n<div class=\"css-1xdhyk6 erfvjey0\" data-testid=\"photoviewer-children-figure\"><\/div><figcaption data-testid=\"photoviewer-children-caption\" class=\"css-gbc9ki ewdxa0s0\"><span class=\"css-14fe1uy e1z0qqy90\"><span><span aria-hidden=\"false\">Illustration by Brian Rea<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\" data-testid=\"companionColumn-1\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Sam Graham-Felsen never imagined being lonely. Throughout his childhood and as a young man his life revolved around his friends. But when Sam got married and then had kids, going out with his friends almost felt like a luxury. After years of focusing on everything in his life except friendship, Sam began to realize he was missing something essential, and he decided to get his friends back.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">On this episode of \u201cModern Love,\u201d Mr. Graham-Felsen describes how he went from being a boy with a wealth of deep friendships to finding himself feeling lonely as an adult, and what he did to bring friendship back into his life.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Read his essay <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2025\/05\/25\/magazine\/male-friendships.html\" title>\u201cWhere Have All My Deep Male Friendships Gone?\u201d<\/a> in The New York Times Magazine.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Here\u2019s <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/article\/how-to-submit-a-modern-love-essay.html\" title>how to submit a Modern Love essay<\/a> to The New York Times.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div data-testid=\"Dropzone-3\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\" data-testid=\"companionColumn-2\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Here\u2019s <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2018\/09\/19\/style\/modern-love-tiny-love-stories.html?pgtype=Article&amp;action=click&amp;module=RelatedLinks\" title>how to submit a Tiny Love Story<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-798hid etfikam0\">Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"http:\/\/nytimes.com\/podcasts\" title>nytimes.com\/podcasts<\/a> or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div data-testid=\"RelatedLinksBlock-5\">\n<div data-testid=\"lazy-loader\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\" data-testid=\"companionColumn-3\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-798hid etfikam0\"><em class=\"css-2fg4z9 e1gzwzxm0\">Links to transcripts of episodes generally appear on these pages within a week.<\/em><\/p>\n<hr class=\"css-7ad88g e1mu4ftr0\" \/>\n<p class=\"css-798hid etfikam0\">\u201cModern Love\u201d is hosted by Anna Martin and produced by Reva Goldberg, Emily Lang, Davis Land, Amy Pearl and Sara Curtis. The show is edited by Davis Land and Jen Poyant, our executive producer. Production management is by Christina Djossa. The show is mixed by Daniel Ramirez and recorded by Maddy Masiello and Nick Pitman. It features original music by Elisheba Ittoop, Dan Powell, Marion Lozano, Rowan Niemisto and Diane Wong. Our theme music is by Dan Powell.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-798hid etfikam0\">Special thanks to Daniel Jones, Miya Lee, Larissa Anderson, Dahlia Haddad, Lisa Tobin, Brooke Minters, Felice Le\u00f3n, Dave Mayers, Eddie Costas, Sawyer Roque, Sophie Erickson, Mariya Abdulkaf, Mark Zemel, Pat Gunther, Mahima Chablani, Jeffrey Miranda, Isabella Anderson, Christine Nguyen, Reyna Desai, Jordan Cohen, Victoria Kim, Nina Lassam and Julia Simon.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-798hid etfikam0\"><strong class=\"css-8qgvsz ebyp5n10\">Thoughts? <\/strong>Email us at <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"mailto:modernlove@nytimes.com\" title>modernlovepodcast@nytimes.com<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><strong class=\"css-8qgvsz ebyp5n10\">Want more from <\/strong><strong class=\"css-8qgvsz ebyp5n10\"><a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/column\/modern-love\" title>Modern Love<\/a><\/strong><strong class=\"css-8qgvsz ebyp5n10\">?<\/strong> Read past <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/column\/modern-love\" title>stories<\/a>. Watch the <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2019\/09\/12\/style\/modern-love-tv-show-trailer.html\" title>TV series<\/a> and sign up for the <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/newsletters\/love-letter\" title>newsletter<\/a>. We also have swag at <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/store.nytimes.com\/collections\/modern-love\" title>the NYT Store<\/a> and two books, \u201c<a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.penguinrandomhouse.com\/books\/623036\/modern-love-revised-and-updated-by-edited-by-daniel-jones-with-contributions-by-andrew-rannells-ayelet-waldman-amy-krouse-rosenthal-veronica-chambers-and-more\/\" title rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Modern Love: True Stories of Love, Loss and Redemption<\/a>\u201d and \u201c<a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.hachettebookgroup.com\/titles\/daniel-jones\/tiny-love-stories\/9781579659912\/\" title rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Tiny Love Stories: True Tales of Love in 100 Words or Less<\/a>.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Listen to and follow Modern LoveApple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music | YouTube |iHeartRadio\u201cHow did I let myself go for so many years without connecting to all these people who I love? How did I convince myself that that was the right path?\u201dIllustration by Brian ReaSam Graham-Felsen never imagined being lonely. Throughout his childhood and as a young man his life revolved around his friends. But when Sam got married and then had kids, going out with his friends almost felt like a luxury. After years of focusing on everything in his life except friendship, Sam began to realize he was missing something essential, and he decided to get his friends back.On this episode of \u201cModern Love,\u201d Mr. Graham-Felsen describes how he went from being a boy with a wealth of deep friendships to finding himself feeling lonely as an adult, and what he did to bring friendship back into his life.Read his essay \u201cWhere Have All My Deep Male Friendships Gone?\u201d in The New York Times Magazine.Here\u2019s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.Here\u2019s how to submit a Tiny Love Story.Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com\/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.Links to transcripts of episodes generally appear on these pages within a week.\u201cModern Love\u201d is hosted by Anna Martin and produced by Reva Goldberg, Emily Lang, Davis Land, Amy Pearl and Sara Curtis. The show is edited by Davis Land and Jen Poyant, our executive producer. Production management is by Christina Djossa. The show is mixed by Daniel Ramirez and recorded by Maddy Masiello and Nick Pitman. It features original music by Elisheba Ittoop, Dan Powell, Marion Lozano, Rowan Niemisto and Diane Wong. Our theme music is by Dan Powell.Special thanks to Daniel Jones, Miya Lee, Larissa Anderson, Dahlia Haddad, Lisa Tobin, Brooke Minters, Felice Le\u00f3n, Dave Mayers, Eddie Costas, Sawyer Roque, Sophie Erickson, Mariya Abdulkaf, Mark Zemel, Pat Gunther, Mahima Chablani, Jeffrey Miranda, Isabella Anderson, Christine Nguyen, Reyna Desai, Jordan Cohen, Victoria Kim, Nina Lassam and Julia Simon.Thoughts? Email us at modernlovepodcast@nytimes.com.Want more from Modern Love? Read past stories. Watch the TV series and sign up for the newsletter. We also have swag at the NYT Store and two books, \u201cModern Love: True Stories of Love, Loss and Redemption\u201d and \u201cTiny Love Stories: True Tales of Love in 100 Words or Less.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":34583,"comment_status":"close","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-34581","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-lifestyle"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/34581","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=34581"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/34581\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":34584,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/34581\/revisions\/34584"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/34583"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=34581"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=34581"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=34581"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}