{"id":31317,"date":"2025-07-09T09:01:20","date_gmt":"2025-07-09T09:01:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=31317"},"modified":"2025-07-09T09:22:57","modified_gmt":"2025-07-09T09:22:57","slug":"mel-robbins-author-of-the-let-them-theory-shares-5-tips-for-a-healthy-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=31317","title":{"rendered":"Mel Robbins, Author of \u2018The Let Them Theory,\u2019 Shares 5 Tips For a Healthy Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"<div><\/div>\n<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\" data-testid=\"companionColumn-0\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">The best-selling author and motivational podcast host Mel Robbins is known for her blunt advice and viral wisdom, from The 5-Second Rule to countless proverbs on relationships, confidence and everyday stuck-ness. Her most recent book, \u201c<a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2024\/12\/24\/well\/mind\/mel-robbins-let-them-profile.html\" title>The Let Them Theory<\/a>,\u201d has given her readers a fresh perspective for navigating disappointment, rejection and uncertainty in life.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Robbins recently joined the \u201cModern Love\u201d podcast to discuss how these tips transformed her own marriage and her relationship with her kids, even just in the past year or so since she wrote the book.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">She read a Modern Love essay, \u201c<a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2020\/05\/15\/style\/modern-love-coronavirus-let-go-to-move-on.html\" title>You Have to Let Go to Move On,<\/a>\u201d about a woman who finally learns that real love doesn\u2019t come from holding on tighter.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\"><em class=\"css-2fg4z9 e1gzwzxm0\">You can listen to the episode using the player below or on <\/em><a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/audio\/app\/2025\/06\/11\/podcasts\/modern-love-fathers-day-advice.html\" title><em class=\"css-2fg4z9 e1gzwzxm0\">the NYT Audio app<\/em><\/a><em class=\"css-2fg4z9 e1gzwzxm0\">, <\/em><a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/modern-love\/id1065559535?mt=2\" title rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"><em class=\"css-2fg4z9 e1gzwzxm0\">Apple<\/em><\/a><em class=\"css-2fg4z9 e1gzwzxm0\">, <\/em><a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/03Er7mSPq9IEewOgbPD3vO?si=CYApBISZSoCH6AjwdiGsFw\" title rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"><em class=\"css-2fg4z9 e1gzwzxm0\">Spotify<\/em><\/a><em class=\"css-2fg4z9 e1gzwzxm0\">, <\/em><a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/music.amazon.com\/podcasts\/c40b7b82-b31d-493d-ac33-273b39d153ca\/modern-love\" title rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"><em class=\"css-2fg4z9 e1gzwzxm0\">Amazon Music<\/em><\/a><em class=\"css-2fg4z9 e1gzwzxm0\">, <\/em><a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/playlist?list=PLdMrbgYfVl-s2_KrR5DosEB0gqr4w-XZd\" title rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"><em class=\"css-2fg4z9 e1gzwzxm0\">YouTube<\/em><\/a><em class=\"css-2fg4z9 e1gzwzxm0\">, <\/em><a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.iheart.com\/podcast\/560-modern-love-28288069\/\" title rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\"><em class=\"css-2fg4z9 e1gzwzxm0\">iHeartRadio<\/em><\/a><em class=\"css-2fg4z9 e1gzwzxm0\"> or wherever you get your podcasts. Below, you\u2019ll find five relationship tips that Robbins shared on the episode.<\/em><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div data-testid=\"Dropzone-1\"><\/div>\n<div data-testid=\"AudioBlock-2\">\n<figure class=\"margins-h css-1nhp71k\"><figcaption class=\"css-5soref\">\n<div class=\"audioFigureHeading\">\n<h3 class=\"css-71086k\">\u2018Modern Love Podcast\u2019: Let Mel Robbins Share Her 5 Tips for a Healthy Relationship<\/h3>\n<p><span class=\"css-xhi848\">The author and podcast host reveals how to let go of control.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/figcaption><div class=\"css-1ijhom3\">\n<div><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\" data-testid=\"companionColumn-1\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<h2 class=\"css-1u37br4 eoo0vm40\" id=\"link-595ca6a7\">1. \u201cLet Them\u201d Show You Who They Are<\/h2>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\"><strong class=\"css-8qgvsz ebyp5n10\">Mel Robbins:<\/strong> I wish I had the \u201cLet Them\u201d theory a long time ago, because one of the most important things in dating and love is being very clear that the other person is who they are and their behavior tells you exactly how they feel about you and whether or not you\u2019re a priority. It would have helped me to let people be who they are, let people like me or not like me. When you say, \u201cLet them,\u201d it\u2019s like a cue to say: This is beyond my control. I am recognizing that this is beyond my own control. Therefore, if it\u2019s beyond my control, why would I spend time and energy torturing myself? Over something I have no power to change. 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Her most recent book, \u201cThe Let Them Theory,\u201d has given her readers a fresh perspective for navigating disappointment, rejection and uncertainty in life.Robbins recently joined the \u201cModern Love\u201d podcast to discuss how these tips transformed her own marriage and her relationship with her kids, even just in the past year or so since she wrote the book.She read a Modern Love essay, \u201cYou Have to Let Go to Move On,\u201d about a woman who finally learns that real love doesn\u2019t come from holding on tighter.You can listen to the episode using the player below or on the NYT Audio app, Apple, Spotify, Amazon Music, YouTube, iHeartRadio or wherever you get your podcasts. Below, you\u2019ll find five relationship tips that Robbins shared on the episode.\u2018Modern Love Podcast\u2019: Let Mel Robbins Share Her 5 Tips for a Healthy RelationshipThe author and podcast host reveals how to let go of control.1. \u201cLet Them\u201d Show You Who They AreMel Robbins: I wish I had the \u201cLet Them\u201d theory a long time ago, because one of the most important things in dating and love is being very clear that the other person is who they are and their behavior tells you exactly how they feel about you and whether or not you\u2019re a priority. It would have helped me to let people be who they are, let people like me or not like me. When you say, \u201cLet them,\u201d it\u2019s like a cue to say: This is beyond my control. I am recognizing that this is beyond my own control. Therefore, if it\u2019s beyond my control, why would I spend time and energy torturing myself? Over something I have no power to change. 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