{"id":2856,"date":"2024-03-23T08:00:02","date_gmt":"2024-03-23T09:00:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=2856"},"modified":"2024-03-23T09:38:18","modified_gmt":"2024-03-23T09:38:18","slug":"living-with-a-messy-partner-tips-for-handling-different-organization-habits","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=2856","title":{"rendered":"Living With a Messy Partner? Tips for Handling Different Organization Habits"},"content":{"rendered":"<div><\/div>\n<p id=\"article-summary\" class=\"css-1n0orw4 e1wiw3jv0\">When people with different tolerances for clutter live together, things can get tense. Experts offer ways to find peace amid the piles.<\/p>\n<section class=\"meteredContent css-1r7ky0e\">\n<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Last year, Tracy McCubbin \u2014 who has been a professional declutterer for two decades and lives by the motto \u201cdon\u2019t put it down, put it away\u201d \u2014 married a man she described as \u201cvery messy.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Both acknowledged the \u201ccosmic joke\u201d of their unlikely pairing. Ms. McCubbin put blue painter\u2019s tape on every drawer and cupboard in the kitchen when the pair first moved in together, offering a map to what goes where. But she has also learned to practice what she preaches to her clients, staying cool and calm about messes that don\u2019t affect her day-to-day functioning. Like his night stand, which is buried under books, charging cables and remotes to TVs she is fairly certain they no longer own.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Or the jumble of tools her husband, an avid gardener, tends to leave in the yard. \u201cIt\u2019s all over the place,\u201d Ms. McCubbin sighed. \u201cBut you know what? We have a beautiful garden. Our fruit trees are fruiting. It\u2019s really been about understanding: This part doesn\u2019t matter.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Ms. McCubbin, and other experts in organizing as well as psychology, said there were a few practical strategies that could help pack rats and neatniks cohabitate in relative harmony.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<h2 class=\"css-kypbrf eoo0vm40\" id=\"link-6bd7e231\">Improve your organization systems.<\/h2>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">\u201cOftentimes when one person is more cluttered, the underlying thesis is that they\u2019re wrong, that they\u2019re doing it the wrong way, that they\u2019re bad,\u201d Ms. McCubbin said.<strong class=\"css-8qgvsz ebyp5n10\"> <\/strong>But in many cases, household clutter is simply an indication you don\u2019t have solid systems in place.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Some of the solutions she offers to clients are almost too obvious, she said. For instance, she has worked with frustrated parents whose children toss backpacks and coats in what she calls the \u201clanding strip\u201d just inside the front door. Hanging a few hooks that they can easily reach helps.<\/p>\n<div class=\"css-1336jj\">\n<div class=\"css-121kum4\">\n<div class=\"css-171d1bw\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"css-asuuk5\">\n<div class=\"css-7axq9l\" data-testid=\"optimistic-truncator-noscript\">\n<div data-testid=\"optimistic-truncator-noscript-message\" class=\"css-6yo1no\">\n<p class=\"css-3kpklk\">We are having trouble retrieving the article content.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-3kpklk\">Please enable JavaScript in your browser settings.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"css-1dv1kvn\" id=\"optimistic-truncator-a11y\">\n<hr \/>\n<p>Thank you for your patience while we verify access. 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Experts offer ways to find peace amid the piles.Last year, Tracy McCubbin \u2014 who has been a professional declutterer for two decades and lives by the motto \u201cdon\u2019t put it down, put it away\u201d \u2014 married a man she described as \u201cvery messy.\u201dBoth acknowledged the \u201ccosmic joke\u201d of their unlikely pairing. Ms. McCubbin put blue painter\u2019s tape on every drawer and cupboard in the kitchen when the pair first moved in together, offering a map to what goes where. But she has also learned to practice what she preaches to her clients, staying cool and calm about messes that don\u2019t affect her day-to-day functioning. Like his night stand, which is buried under books, charging cables and remotes to TVs she is fairly certain they no longer own.Or the jumble of tools her husband, an avid gardener, tends to leave in the yard. \u201cIt\u2019s all over the place,\u201d Ms. McCubbin sighed. \u201cBut you know what? We have a beautiful garden. Our fruit trees are fruiting. It\u2019s really been about understanding: This part doesn\u2019t matter.\u201dMs. McCubbin, and other experts in organizing as well as psychology, said there were a few practical strategies that could help pack rats and neatniks cohabitate in relative harmony.Improve your organization systems.\u201cOftentimes when one person is more cluttered, the underlying thesis is that they\u2019re wrong, that they\u2019re doing it the wrong way, that they\u2019re bad,\u201d Ms. McCubbin said. But in many cases, household clutter is simply an indication you don\u2019t have solid systems in place.Some of the solutions she offers to clients are almost too obvious, she said. For instance, she has worked with frustrated parents whose children toss backpacks and coats in what she calls the \u201clanding strip\u201d just inside the front door. 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