{"id":28342,"date":"2025-05-22T18:33:36","date_gmt":"2025-05-22T18:33:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=28342"},"modified":"2025-05-22T19:23:50","modified_gmt":"2025-05-22T19:23:50","slug":"the-etiquette-of-touching-a-stranger","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=28342","title":{"rendered":"The Etiquette of Touching a Stranger"},"content":{"rendered":"<div><\/div>\n<p id=\"article-summary\" class=\"css-79rysd e1wiw3jv0\">A tense exchange between the actor Denzel Washington and a photographer at Cannes is raising questions about laying hands on someone you don\u2019t know.<\/p>\n<section class=\"meteredContent css-1r7ky0e\">\n<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\" data-testid=\"companionColumn-0\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">In a tense exchange on the red carpet at the Cannes Film Festival this week, a photographer grabbed the actor Denzel Washington\u2019s arm, apparently seeking another photo.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Mr. Washington, perturbed, yanked his arm back, and then repeatedly warned the photographer to stop \u2014 a brief squabble between seeming strangers that <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/variety.com\/2025\/film\/festivals\/denzel-washington-fights-cannes-photographer-1236404247\/\" title rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">made headlines<\/a>, and raised the question: Is it ever OK to touch someone you don\u2019t know?<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">The New York Times reached out to a handful of etiquette experts and therapists who specialize in boundary setting to ask about the rules around making physical contact with a stranger.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"css-1u37br4 eoo0vm40\" id=\"link-6c3c9bfb\">\u2018Keep your hands to yourself.\u2019<\/h2>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Etiquette, when it comes to spontaneous touching, is nuanced \u2014 social rules vary from place to place and culture to culture. Still, the manners experts we spoke with were unanimous: \u201cThe hard and fast rule about touching strangers is that you shouldn\u2019t,\u201d said William Hanson, an etiquette coach in Britain and the author of \u201cJust Good Manners.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div data-testid=\"Dropzone-1\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\" data-testid=\"companionColumn-1\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">We ran some scenarios by him. What if you are trying to flag down a server in a restaurant? No, he said. Placing a hand on someone as you are trying to move through a crowd? Nope, he answered. Weave!<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Others allowed for exceptions. If, say, someone drops a wallet without noticing and doesn\u2019t hear your calls, \u201cyou could use touch briefly,\u201d said Juliane T. Shore, a marriage and family therapist in Austin, Texas, and the author of \u201cSetting Boundaries That Stick.\u201d But don\u2019t grab or clasp the person, she said.<\/p>\n<div class=\"css-kbghgg\">\n<div class=\"css-121kum4\">\n<div class=\"css-171quhb\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"css-asuuk5\">\n<div class=\"css-7axq9l\" data-testid=\"optimistic-truncator-noscript\">\n<div data-testid=\"optimistic-truncator-noscript-message\" class=\"css-6yo1no\">\n<p class=\"css-3kpklk\">We are having trouble retrieving the article content.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-3kpklk\">Please enable JavaScript in your browser settings.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"css-1dv1kvn\" id=\"optimistic-truncator-a11y\">\n<hr \/>\n<p>Thank you for your patience while we verify access. 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Still, the manners experts we spoke with were unanimous: \u201cThe hard and fast rule about touching strangers is that you shouldn\u2019t,\u201d said William Hanson, an etiquette coach in Britain and the author of \u201cJust Good Manners.\u201dWe ran some scenarios by him. What if you are trying to flag down a server in a restaurant? No, he said. Placing a hand on someone as you are trying to move through a crowd? Nope, he answered. Weave!Others allowed for exceptions. If, say, someone drops a wallet without noticing and doesn\u2019t hear your calls, \u201cyou could use touch briefly,\u201d said Juliane T. Shore, a marriage and family therapist in Austin, Texas, and the author of \u201cSetting Boundaries That Stick.\u201d But don\u2019t grab or clasp the person, she said.We are having trouble retrieving the article content.Please enable JavaScript in your browser settings.Thank you for your patience while we verify access. 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