{"id":27738,"date":"2025-05-14T09:18:36","date_gmt":"2025-05-14T09:18:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=27738"},"modified":"2025-05-14T09:29:40","modified_gmt":"2025-05-14T09:29:40","slug":"modern-love-podcast-why-boys-and-men-are-floundering-according-to-relationship-therapist-terry-real","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=27738","title":{"rendered":"\u2018Modern Love\u2019 Podcast: Why Boys and Men Are Floundering, According to Relationship Therapist Terry Real"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\" data-testid=\"companionColumn-0\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<div class=\"css-ms3zov\">\n<div class=\"css-14jae4t\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<h3 class=\"css-1vs5pxi e1gnsphs0\" id=\"link-2644e180\"><span><em class=\"css-2fg4z9 e1gzwzxm0\">Listen to and follow <\/em><a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/column\/modern-love-podcast\" title><em class=\"css-2fg4z9 e1gzwzxm0\">Modern Love<\/em><\/a><br \/><a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/modern-love\/id1065559535?mt=2\" title rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Apple Podcasts<\/a> | <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/03Er7mSPq9IEewOgbPD3vO?si=CYApBISZSoCH6AjwdiGsFw\" title rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Spotify<\/a> | <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/music.amazon.com\/podcasts\/c40b7b82-b31d-493d-ac33-273b39d153ca\/modern-love\" title rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Amazon Music<\/a> | <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/playlist?list=PLdMrbgYfVl-s2_KrR5DosEB0gqr4w-XZd\" title rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">YouTube<\/a> |<a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.iheart.com\/podcast\/560-modern-love-28288069\/\" title rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">iHeartRadio<\/a><\/span><\/h3>\n<h2 class=\"css-11rezm5 eoo0vm40\" id=\"link-12f56d8e\">\u2018What you learned about what it means to be a strong man as a boy guarantees you\u2019ll be seen as a lousy husband.\u2019<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div data-testid=\"ImageBlock-1\">\n<div data-testid=\"imageblock-wrapper\">\n<figure class=\"img-sz-medium css-mqw7kw e1g7ppur0\" aria-label=\"media\" role=\"group\">\n<div class=\"css-1xdhyk6 erfvjey0\" data-testid=\"photoviewer-children-figure\"><\/div><figcaption data-testid=\"photoviewer-children-caption\" class=\"css-gbc9ki ewdxa0s0\"><span class=\"css-jevhma e13ogyst0\">Picture of Terry Real<\/span><span class=\"css-14fe1uy e1z0qqy90\"><span><span aria-hidden=\"false\">David Dee Delgado\/Getty Images for The New York Times<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\" data-testid=\"companionColumn-1\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">A session with Terry Real, a marriage and family therapist, can get uncomfortable. He\u2019s known to mirror and amplify the emotions of his clients, sometimes cursing and nearly yelling, often in an attempt to get men in touch with the emotions they\u2019re not used to honoring.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Real says men are often pushed to shut off their expression of vulnerability when they\u2019re young as part of the process of becoming a man. That process, he says, can lead to myriad problems in their relationships. He sees it as his job to pull them back into vulnerability and intimacy, reconfiguring their understanding of masculinity in order to build more wholesome and connected families.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">In this episode, Real explains why vulnerability is so essential to healthy masculinity and why his work with men feels more urgent than ever. He explains why he thinks our current models of masculinity are broken and what it will take to build new ones.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">This episode was inspired by a New York Times Magazine piece, \u201c<a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2025\/02\/04\/magazine\/therapy-marriage-couples-counseling.html\" title>How I Learned That the Problem in My Marriage Was Me<\/a>\u201d by Daniel Oppenheimer.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div data-testid=\"Dropzone-3\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\" data-testid=\"companionColumn-2\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">The \u201cModern Love\u201d podcast team is planning a second episode with Real focused on fatherhood. He has agreed to give our listeners advice on fatherhood, whether you\u2019re an experienced dad, an expecting dad or otherwise dad-adjacent. For example, maybe you want advice on how to parent in a world filled with so many mixed messages about how men should be or on how to repair a mistake you made as a dad. Maybe there are elements of fatherhood you\u2019re still figuring out or are unsure of. Record your questions as a voice memo and email them to <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"mailto:modernlovepodcast@nytimes.com\" title>modernlovepodcast@nytimes.com<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Tips for recording: Please avoid recording where there is a lot of background noise. If you are using your smartphone to record your voice memo, please speak into your phone\u2019s built-in microphone from a few inches away. Your recording may not be usable if you use Bluetooth earbuds or if you are too close or too far from the phone. It works best when you tell us your story as if you are speaking to a friend rather than reading it from a written statement. 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He\u2019s known to mirror and amplify the emotions of his clients, sometimes cursing and nearly yelling, often in an attempt to get men in touch with the emotions they\u2019re not used to honoring.Real says men are often pushed to shut off their expression of vulnerability when they\u2019re young as part of the process of becoming a man. That process, he says, can lead to myriad problems in their relationships. He sees it as his job to pull them back into vulnerability and intimacy, reconfiguring their understanding of masculinity in order to build more wholesome and connected families.In this episode, Real explains why vulnerability is so essential to healthy masculinity and why his work with men feels more urgent than ever. He explains why he thinks our current models of masculinity are broken and what it will take to build new ones.This episode was inspired by a New York Times Magazine piece, \u201cHow I Learned That the Problem in My Marriage Was Me\u201d by Daniel Oppenheimer.The \u201cModern Love\u201d podcast team is planning a second episode with Real focused on fatherhood. He has agreed to give our listeners advice on fatherhood, whether you\u2019re an experienced dad, an expecting dad or otherwise dad-adjacent. For example, maybe you want advice on how to parent in a world filled with so many mixed messages about how men should be or on how to repair a mistake you made as a dad. Maybe there are elements of fatherhood you\u2019re still figuring out or are unsure of. Record your questions as a voice memo and email them to modernlovepodcast@nytimes.com.Tips for recording: Please avoid recording where there is a lot of background noise. 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