{"id":26622,"date":"2025-04-25T09:05:07","date_gmt":"2025-04-25T09:05:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=26622"},"modified":"2025-04-25T09:23:11","modified_gmt":"2025-04-25T09:23:11","slug":"toxic-relationship-habits-you-should-avoid","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=26622","title":{"rendered":"Toxic Relationship Habits You Should Avoid"},"content":{"rendered":"
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The experts also offered advice on what you can do instead.<\/p>\n

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Once, when my husband, Tom, and I were battling about something, I got so worked up that I blurted, like an angry toddler: \u201cYou bad man!\u201d<\/p>\n

Conflict is \u201cinevitable and normal in intimate relationships,\u201d said Andrew Christensen, a distinguished research professor at the U.C.L.A. department of psychology. But the way that couples manage it is a key to a healthy bond, he added.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s a productive way to deal with conflict \u2014 attacking the problem rather than each other, for example \u2014 and an unhelpful way that fails to resolve the fight or makes it worse.<\/p>\n

Name-calling, as I did, falls under the second category<\/a>. (Fortunately, Tom laughed, which made me \u2014 grudgingly \u2014 laugh, too.)<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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Other unproductive habits? Criticism, defensiveness, contempt and stonewalling \u2014 often referred to as the \u201cfour horsemen of the relationship apocalypse<\/a>.\u201d<\/p>\n

But there are additional red flags that can arise when partners fight. I asked experts to share some, along with advice for what to do instead.<\/p>\n

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The experts also offered advice on what you can do instead.Once, when my husband, Tom, and I were battling about something, I got so worked up that I blurted, like an angry toddler: \u201cYou bad man!\u201dConflict is \u201cinevitable and normal in intimate relationships,\u201d said Andrew Christensen, a distinguished research professor at the U.C.L.A. department of psychology. But the way that couples manage it is a key to a healthy bond, he added.There\u2019s a productive way to deal with conflict \u2014 attacking the problem rather than each other, for example \u2014 and an unhelpful way that fails to resolve the fight or makes it worse.Name-calling, as I did, falls under the second category. (Fortunately, Tom laughed, which made me \u2014 grudgingly \u2014 laugh, too.)Other unproductive habits? Criticism, defensiveness, contempt and stonewalling \u2014 often referred to as the \u201cfour horsemen of the relationship apocalypse.\u201dBut there are additional red flags that can arise when partners fight. I asked experts to share some, along with advice for what to do instead.We are having trouble retrieving the article content.Please enable JavaScript in your browser settings.Thank you for your patience while we verify access. If you are in Reader mode please exit and\u00a0log into\u00a0your Times account, or\u00a0subscribe\u00a0for all of The Times.Thank you for your patience while we verify access.Already a subscriber?\u00a0Log in.Want all of The Times?\u00a0Subscribe.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":26624,"comment_status":"close","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-26622","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-lifestyle"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26622","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=26622"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26622\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":26625,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26622\/revisions\/26625"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/26624"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=26622"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=26622"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=26622"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}