{"id":26445,"date":"2025-04-23T09:02:19","date_gmt":"2025-04-23T09:02:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=26445"},"modified":"2025-04-23T09:24:36","modified_gmt":"2025-04-23T09:24:36","slug":"modern-love-podcast-youre-probably-thinking-about-boundaries-all-wrong","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=26445","title":{"rendered":"\u2018Modern Love\u2019 Podcast: You\u2019re Probably Thinking About Boundaries All Wrong"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\" data-testid=\"companionColumn-0\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<div class=\"css-zera2v\">\n<div class=\"css-14jae4t\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<h3 class=\"css-1vs5pxi e1gnsphs0\" id=\"link-2644e180\"><span><em class=\"css-2fg4z9 e1gzwzxm0\">Listen to and follow <\/em><a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/column\/modern-love-podcast\" title><em class=\"css-2fg4z9 e1gzwzxm0\">Modern Love<\/em><\/a><br \/><a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/modern-love\/id1065559535?mt=2\" title rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Apple Podcasts<\/a> | <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/03Er7mSPq9IEewOgbPD3vO?si=CYApBISZSoCH6AjwdiGsFw\" title rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Spotify<\/a> | <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/music.amazon.com\/podcasts\/c40b7b82-b31d-493d-ac33-273b39d153ca\/modern-love\" title rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Amazon Music<\/a> | <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/playlist?list=PLdMrbgYfVl-s2_KrR5DosEB0gqr4w-XZd\" title rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">YouTube<\/a> |<a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.iheart.com\/podcast\/560-modern-love-28288069\/\" title rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">iHeartRadio<\/a><\/span><\/h3>\n<h2 class=\"css-tosae5 eoo0vm40\" id=\"link-27ef0f8d\">\u2018Asking your mom not to talk to you about weight in and of itself is not a boundary, it\u2019s just a request.\u2019<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div data-testid=\"ImageBlock-1\">\n<div data-testid=\"imageblock-wrapper\">\n<figure class=\"img-sz-medium css-mqw7kw e1g7ppur0\" aria-label=\"media\" role=\"group\">\n<div class=\"css-1xdhyk6 erfvjey0\" data-testid=\"photoviewer-children-figure\"><\/div><figcaption data-testid=\"photoviewer-children-caption\" class=\"css-gbc9ki ewdxa0s0\"><span class=\"css-14fe1uy e1z0qqy90\"><span><span aria-hidden=\"false\">Photo Illustration by The New York Times; Background: Brian Rea; Inset: via Simon and Schuster<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\" data-testid=\"companionColumn-1\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">KC Davis is a therapist and author known for her practical, empathetic advice on dealing with clutter, even when you are feeling like too much of a mess yourself to take care of the mess in your home. Her TikTok videos on the subject have been viewed millions of times. But lately, Davis has been talking and writing about our relationships not just to the objects in our lives, but to the people, too.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">In her new book, \u201cWho Deserves Your Love: How to Create Boundaries to Start, Strengthen, or End Any Relationship<em class=\"css-2fg4z9 e1gzwzxm0\">,\u201d <\/em>Davis tries to disentangle the popular understanding of boundaries, saying the concept is widely misunderstood. She offers a guide to forming and keeping boundaries that help readers better navigate their conflicts with other people.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">On this episode of \u201cModern Love,&#8221; Davis tells us what she thinks we get wrong about boundaries and how we should be thinking about them instead. She reads the Modern Love essay \u201c<a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2025\/03\/14\/style\/modern-love-my-husband-was-appalled-to-learn-that-he-was-a-doormat.html\" title>Is My Husband a Doormat?<\/a>\u201d about a sudden argument between a couple 20 years into their relationship and talks about how boundaries can help defuse such situations. Davis also tells us how boundaries helped heal her own relationship with her father.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">The author of today\u2019s featured essay, Lidija Hilje, has a new novel coming out in July called \u201c<a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.simonandschuster.com\/books\/Slanting-Towards-the-Sea\/Lidija-Hilje\/9781668078679\" title rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Slanting Towards the Sea.<\/a>\u201c<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div data-testid=\"Dropzone-3\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\" data-testid=\"companionColumn-2\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">For an upcoming episode about location sharing, the Modern Love team wants to hear your location-sharing story. Did something happen that made you regret sharing your location with someone? Was there a moment when you were thankful that you had? Where were you? What happened? How did your relationship change as a result? 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Her TikTok videos on the subject have been viewed millions of times. But lately, Davis has been talking and writing about our relationships not just to the objects in our lives, but to the people, too.In her new book, \u201cWho Deserves Your Love: How to Create Boundaries to Start, Strengthen, or End Any Relationship,\u201d Davis tries to disentangle the popular understanding of boundaries, saying the concept is widely misunderstood. She offers a guide to forming and keeping boundaries that help readers better navigate their conflicts with other people.On this episode of \u201cModern Love,&#8221; Davis tells us what she thinks we get wrong about boundaries and how we should be thinking about them instead. She reads the Modern Love essay \u201cIs My Husband a Doormat?\u201d about a sudden argument between a couple 20 years into their relationship and talks about how boundaries can help defuse such situations. Davis also tells us how boundaries helped heal her own relationship with her father.The author of today\u2019s featured essay, Lidija Hilje, has a new novel coming out in July called \u201cSlanting Towards the Sea.\u201cFor an upcoming episode about location sharing, the Modern Love team wants to hear your location-sharing story. Did something happen that made you regret sharing your location with someone? Was there a moment when you were thankful that you had? Where were you? What happened? How did your relationship change as a result? The deadline is May 1. Submission instructions are here.We are having trouble retrieving the article content.Please enable JavaScript in your browser settings.Thank you for your patience while we verify access. 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