{"id":26397,"date":"2025-04-22T15:00:05","date_gmt":"2025-04-22T15:00:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=26397"},"modified":"2025-04-22T15:24:45","modified_gmt":"2025-04-22T15:24:45","slug":"6-books-to-help-you-deal-with-difficult-people","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=26397","title":{"rendered":"6 Books to Help You Deal With Difficult People"},"content":{"rendered":"
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These six books can help ease tensions.<\/p>\n

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Earlier in my career, I worked for a hot-tempered woman who, according to an office rumor, had thrown a shoe at one of my predecessors. Rattled by her blowups, I tiptoed and stammered around her, fearing the day when she\u2019d wing a pump at me.<\/p>\n

Then a friend passed along \u201cCoping With Difficult Bosses\u201d by Robert M. Bramson, which was published in 1992. The book\u2019s solid, seen-it-all advice helped me stop perseverating and find my spine. I learned from Dr. Bramson to stand tall when my boss exploded, to call her by her name (to humanize the relationship) and, if I couldn\u2019t quite look her in the eye, to focus on her forehead \u2014 close enough that she couldn\u2019t tell the difference.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re struggling with a difficult colleague, family member or friend, books can validate your experience and teach you helpful communication skills, said William Doherty, a professor emeritus of family social science at the University of Minnesota and a co-founder of Braver Angels, a nonpartisan nonprofit that facilitates conversations between people with differing political views.<\/p>\n

But, he added, be wary of books that give you \u201cone large global theory\u201d about whatever is wrong with the other person. Most relationship problems are caused by both parties, at least to some degree, he said, so books that encourage you to consider your part are generally more helpful.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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We asked therapists, psychologists and other workplace experts to recommend books that can help you get along with difficult people \u2014 or at least disagree with them more constructively. Here are <\/strong>six <\/strong>titles that rose to the top of the list.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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These six books can help ease tensions.Earlier in my career, I worked for a hot-tempered woman who, according to an office rumor, had thrown a shoe at one of my predecessors. Rattled by her blowups, I tiptoed and stammered around her, fearing the day when she\u2019d wing a pump at me.Then a friend passed along \u201cCoping With Difficult Bosses\u201d by Robert M. Bramson, which was published in 1992. The book\u2019s solid, seen-it-all advice helped me stop perseverating and find my spine. I learned from Dr. Bramson to stand tall when my boss exploded, to call her by her name (to humanize the relationship) and, if I couldn\u2019t quite look her in the eye, to focus on her forehead \u2014 close enough that she couldn\u2019t tell the difference.If you\u2019re struggling with a difficult colleague, family member or friend, books can validate your experience and teach you helpful communication skills, said William Doherty, a professor emeritus of family social science at the University of Minnesota and a co-founder of Braver Angels, a nonpartisan nonprofit that facilitates conversations between people with differing political views.But, he added, be wary of books that give you \u201cone large global theory\u201d about whatever is wrong with the other person. Most relationship problems are caused by both parties, at least to some degree, he said, so books that encourage you to consider your part are generally more helpful.We asked therapists, psychologists and other workplace experts to recommend books that can help you get along with difficult people \u2014 or at least disagree with them more constructively. Here are six titles that rose to the top of the list.Simon & SchusterWe are having trouble retrieving the article content.Please enable JavaScript in your browser settings.Thank you for your patience while we verify access. If you are in Reader mode please exit and\u00a0log into\u00a0your Times account, or\u00a0subscribe\u00a0for all of The Times.Thank you for your patience while we verify access.Already a subscriber?\u00a0Log in.Want all of The Times?\u00a0Subscribe.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":26399,"comment_status":"close","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-26397","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-lifestyle"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26397","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=26397"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26397\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":26400,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26397\/revisions\/26400"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/26399"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=26397"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=26397"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=26397"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}