{"id":26209,"date":"2025-04-18T09:03:14","date_gmt":"2025-04-18T09:03:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=26209"},"modified":"2025-04-18T09:31:05","modified_gmt":"2025-04-18T09:31:05","slug":"how-to-handle-unexpected-grief-for-life-transitions","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=26209","title":{"rendered":"How to Handle Unexpected Grief for Life Transitions"},"content":{"rendered":"<div><\/div>\n<p id=\"article-summary\" data-testid=\"onsite-summary\" class=\"css-79rysd e1wiw3jv0\">The good-news blues are real.<\/p>\n<section class=\"meteredContent css-1r7ky0e\">\n<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\" data-testid=\"companionColumn-0\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">A friend of mine is retiring after dreaming about it for years. Yet when he packed up his office, he burst into tears. \u201cI have no idea why,\u201d he told me. \u201cI\u2019ve wanted out forever.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">We expect some life transitions to be difficult, like a serious illness or the end of a relationship. But others \u2014 a new house, a marriage, a promotion \u2014 are more positive. You should be happy, so why do you feel sad?<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Because with change comes loss, said Alan Wolfelt, a grief counselor and director of the Center for Loss &amp; Life Transition in Fort Collins, Colo. \u201cAnytime you\u2019re gaining something new in life, you\u2019re giving something else up,\u201d he said. And sometimes the result is grief, he added.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">So how do you handle the unexpected emotions? I asked experts for guidance.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"css-15h6bi9 e1gnsphs0\" id=\"link-c75a4f0\"><span>Recognize your grief.<\/span><\/h3>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">We often associate grief with death, but it can crop up during any loss. And telling yourself that you should be happy only makes you feel worse, said Anthony Chambers, a psychologist and chief academic officer of the Family Institute at Northwestern University.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div data-testid=\"Dropzone-1\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\" data-testid=\"companionColumn-1\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">He suggests clarifying your muddled emotions by asking yourself these questions: What am I feeling and why am I feeling this way? What am I losing with this gain? What did I appreciate about my previous stage of life?<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">If you feel grief, that doesn\u2019t mean you made the wrong choice, Dr. Chambers said. 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Yet when he packed up his office, he burst into tears. \u201cI have no idea why,\u201d he told me. \u201cI\u2019ve wanted out forever.\u201dWe expect some life transitions to be difficult, like a serious illness or the end of a relationship. But others \u2014 a new house, a marriage, a promotion \u2014 are more positive. You should be happy, so why do you feel sad?Because with change comes loss, said Alan Wolfelt, a grief counselor and director of the Center for Loss &#038; Life Transition in Fort Collins, Colo. \u201cAnytime you\u2019re gaining something new in life, you\u2019re giving something else up,\u201d he said. And sometimes the result is grief, he added.So how do you handle the unexpected emotions? I asked experts for guidance.Recognize your grief.We often associate grief with death, but it can crop up during any loss. And telling yourself that you should be happy only makes you feel worse, said Anthony Chambers, a psychologist and chief academic officer of the Family Institute at Northwestern University.He suggests clarifying your muddled emotions by asking yourself these questions: What am I feeling and why am I feeling this way? What am I losing with this gain? What did I appreciate about my previous stage of life?If you feel grief, that doesn\u2019t mean you made the wrong choice, Dr. Chambers said. It\u2019s just part of your adjustment to this new chapter, he added.We are having trouble retrieving the article content.Please enable JavaScript in your browser settings.Thank you for your patience while we verify access. 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