{"id":25711,"date":"2025-04-10T09:01:57","date_gmt":"2025-04-10T09:01:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=25711"},"modified":"2025-04-10T09:23:48","modified_gmt":"2025-04-10T09:23:48","slug":"my-therapist-fired-me-after-i-confessed-to-a-sexual-dream-about-her","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=25711","title":{"rendered":"My Therapist Fired Me After I Confessed to a Sexual Dream About Her"},"content":{"rendered":"
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I am a veteran with PTSD, depression, anxiety and marital discord. The Veterans Affairs Department has been paying for me to see a therapist. At my last session, I shared with my therapist that I\u2019d had a sexual dream about her. I did not share any specifics about the dream, and I did not say or suggest that I have a crush on her. (I do not.)<\/em><\/p>\n

My therapist blew up at me, saying that this is something you should not bring up to a therapist. The next day I felt so bad about the incident that I texted the therapist and apologized. I told her I was embarrassed and would never share something like that again. She did not reply.<\/em><\/p>\n

Two days later, I received a phone call from her receptionist telling me that my therapist was terminating therapy with me.<\/em><\/p>\n

For the record, the therapist never told me any topic was off limits. In fact, she told me that therapy was a safe place to share any issues I wanted to bring up. I remember asking her, \u201cI can tell you anything?\u201d and she said, \u201cYes, anything.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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I feel confused and abandoned. She was the only person I could share anything with and not feel judged. This is how a lot of vets feel if we share anything terrible we had done or failed to do while on active duty. I don\u2019t think I will ever trust a therapist again.<\/em><\/p>\n

I feel lost, alone and hurt. Can you offer any guidance?<\/em><\/p>\n

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I\u2019m so sorry that this happened to you, because you did absolutely nothing wrong. Instead, your therapist\u2019s wrongdoing has left you in a deeply upsetting predicament. A therapist should create a truly safe space, and it\u2019s devastating when trust in your therapist is broken. What you\u2019ve experienced \u2014 especially after sharing something so delicately personal \u2014 is not only hurtful but also destabilizing.<\/p>\n

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She said I could tell her anything.I am a veteran with PTSD, depression, anxiety and marital discord. The Veterans Affairs Department has been paying for me to see a therapist. At my last session, I shared with my therapist that I\u2019d had a sexual dream about her. I did not share any specifics about the dream, and I did not say or suggest that I have a crush on her. (I do not.)My therapist blew up at me, saying that this is something you should not bring up to a therapist. The next day I felt so bad about the incident that I texted the therapist and apologized. I told her I was embarrassed and would never share something like that again. She did not reply.Two days later, I received a phone call from her receptionist telling me that my therapist was terminating therapy with me.For the record, the therapist never told me any topic was off limits. In fact, she told me that therapy was a safe place to share any issues I wanted to bring up. I remember asking her, \u201cI can tell you anything?\u201d and she said, \u201cYes, anything.\u201dI feel confused and abandoned. She was the only person I could share anything with and not feel judged. This is how a lot of vets feel if we share anything terrible we had done or failed to do while on active duty. I don\u2019t think I will ever trust a therapist again.I feel lost, alone and hurt. Can you offer any guidance?From the Therapist:I\u2019m so sorry that this happened to you, because you did absolutely nothing wrong. Instead, your therapist\u2019s wrongdoing has left you in a deeply upsetting predicament. A therapist should create a truly safe space, and it\u2019s devastating when trust in your therapist is broken. What you\u2019ve experienced \u2014 especially after sharing something so delicately personal \u2014 is not only hurtful but also destabilizing.We are having trouble retrieving the article content.Please enable JavaScript in your browser settings.Thank you for your patience while we verify access. If you are in Reader mode please exit and\u00a0log into\u00a0your Times account, or\u00a0subscribe\u00a0for all of The Times.Thank you for your patience while we verify access.Already a subscriber?\u00a0Log in.Want all of The Times?\u00a0Subscribe.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":25713,"comment_status":"close","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-25711","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-lifestyle"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/25711","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=25711"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/25711\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":25714,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/25711\/revisions\/25714"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/25713"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=25711"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=25711"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=25711"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}