{"id":24421,"date":"2025-03-21T08:04:01","date_gmt":"2025-03-21T09:04:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=24421"},"modified":"2025-03-21T09:31:16","modified_gmt":"2025-03-21T09:31:16","slug":"how-to-keep-your-relationship-fun","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=24421","title":{"rendered":"How to Keep Your Relationship Fun"},"content":{"rendered":"<div><\/div>\n<p id=\"article-summary\" data-testid=\"onsite-summary\" class=\"css-79rysd e1wiw3jv0\">Your relationship may be solid, but is it playful?<\/p>\n<section class=\"meteredContent css-1r7ky0e\">\n<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\" data-testid=\"companionColumn-0\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">My husband, Tom, and I have a series of hand signals that we use when we\u2019re out together. When I shoot him a meaningful look and stroke my chin, that means \u201cI have a piece of good gossip for you.\u201d A discreet tug to my left earlobe means \u201ctime to go.\u201d (Although, now that I\u2019ve given it away, this gesture will be retired.)<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Secret signals might sound like something from middle school. But they\u2019re also fun.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">When you\u2019re an adult, playfulness may not always feel natural. But play helps you <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tandfonline.com\/doi\/abs\/10.1080\/01490400.2013.761905?journalCode=ulsc20\" title rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">cope with stress<\/a> and <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/38940664\/\" title rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">increases your life satisfaction<\/a>. It also helps people in relationships <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.sciencedirect.com\/science\/article\/abs\/pii\/S0092656619300200\" title rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">feel closer<\/a>. Playful behaviors like humor, banter or flirting can also remind you of the early days of your relationship, said John Kim and Vanessa Bennett, a therapist couple who wrote \u201cIt\u2019s Not Me, It\u2019s You.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">But playful relationships don\u2019t always happen organically, said Roslyn Ashford, a licensed professional counselor in Mississippi. You have to invent or search for these moments of fun, she added. Here\u2019s how.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"css-15h6bi9 e1gnsphs0\" id=\"link-49602830\"><span>Cultivate inside jokes.<\/span><\/h3>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Research has confirmed what we intuitively know: Humor is a key element of adult play. So look for small opportunities to add a little levity throughout the day, said Gaya Kodiyalam, a therapist in New York City.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div data-testid=\"Dropzone-1\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\" data-testid=\"companionColumn-1\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">You can cultivate your own lighthearted language, Kodiyalam said. She and her husband have so many nicknames for each other, she said, they rarely call each other by their given names.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">They\u2019ve also developed a series of funny rituals. 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When I shoot him a meaningful look and stroke my chin, that means \u201cI have a piece of good gossip for you.\u201d A discreet tug to my left earlobe means \u201ctime to go.\u201d (Although, now that I\u2019ve given it away, this gesture will be retired.)Secret signals might sound like something from middle school. But they\u2019re also fun.When you\u2019re an adult, playfulness may not always feel natural. But play helps you cope with stress and increases your life satisfaction. It also helps people in relationships feel closer. Playful behaviors like humor, banter or flirting can also remind you of the early days of your relationship, said John Kim and Vanessa Bennett, a therapist couple who wrote \u201cIt\u2019s Not Me, It\u2019s You.\u201dBut playful relationships don\u2019t always happen organically, said Roslyn Ashford, a licensed professional counselor in Mississippi. You have to invent or search for these moments of fun, she added. 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