{"id":23831,"date":"2025-03-12T13:48:10","date_gmt":"2025-03-12T14:48:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=23831"},"modified":"2025-03-12T15:28:23","modified_gmt":"2025-03-12T15:28:23","slug":"when-a-couples-drinking-habits-diverge","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=23831","title":{"rendered":"When a Couple\u2019s Drinking Habits Diverge"},"content":{"rendered":"
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When one partner wants to cut back, or stops drinking altogether, the changes can reverberate throughout a relationship.<\/p>\n

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Casey and Mike Davidson always enjoyed drinking together.<\/p>\n

The couple, both 49, met after college while working as consultants at the same firm. Romance blossomed over work happy hours, then time spent lingering over a bottle of wine on long dates.<\/p>\n

In their mid-20s, the pair moved to Seattle and made a group of friends who were always up for a drink. Afternoons were for hiking, kayaking and sipping beers on Lake Union; evenings were for rollicking, boozy dinner parties.<\/p>\n

But by their 30s, their drinking habits diverged. Ms. Davidson drank a bottle of wine by herself most nights, and felt increasingly uneasy about it, while Mr. Davidson settled into life as a self-described \u201csingle-beer-a-night drinker.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI was really defensive about my drinking,\u201d Ms. Davidson said, adding, \u201cI didn\u2019t want him watching me every time I poured a third glass of wine.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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Like the Davidsons, many couples have had to grapple with the role alcohol plays in their partnership \u2014 even if neither party drinks to the point where it causes clear, consistent problems at home, or takes an obvious toll on their health. Their relationship may still receive a shock when one partner decides to cut back or quit altogether.<\/p>\n

\u201cIt can drive a wedge between people in terms of how they socialize, how they relax and unwind, their bedroom activities<\/a>,\u201d said Ruby Warrington, the author of \u201cSober Curious.\u201d \u201cIt can be really uncomfortable.\u201d<\/p>\n

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When one partner wants to cut back, or stops drinking altogether, the changes can reverberate throughout a relationship.Casey and Mike Davidson always enjoyed drinking together.The couple, both 49, met after college while working as consultants at the same firm. Romance blossomed over work happy hours, then time spent lingering over a bottle of wine on long dates.In their mid-20s, the pair moved to Seattle and made a group of friends who were always up for a drink. Afternoons were for hiking, kayaking and sipping beers on Lake Union; evenings were for rollicking, boozy dinner parties.But by their 30s, their drinking habits diverged. Ms. Davidson drank a bottle of wine by herself most nights, and felt increasingly uneasy about it, while Mr. Davidson settled into life as a self-described \u201csingle-beer-a-night drinker.\u201d\u201cI was really defensive about my drinking,\u201d Ms. Davidson said, adding, \u201cI didn\u2019t want him watching me every time I poured a third glass of wine.\u201dLike the Davidsons, many couples have had to grapple with the role alcohol plays in their partnership \u2014 even if neither party drinks to the point where it causes clear, consistent problems at home, or takes an obvious toll on their health. Their relationship may still receive a shock when one partner decides to cut back or quit altogether.\u201cIt can drive a wedge between people in terms of how they socialize, how they relax and unwind, their bedroom activities,\u201d said Ruby Warrington, the author of \u201cSober Curious.\u201d \u201cIt can be really uncomfortable.\u201dWe are having trouble retrieving the article content.Please enable JavaScript in your browser settings.Thank you for your patience while we verify access. If you are in Reader mode please exit and\u00a0log into\u00a0your Times account, or\u00a0subscribe\u00a0for all of The Times.Thank you for your patience while we verify access.Already a subscriber?\u00a0Log in.Want all of The Times?\u00a0Subscribe.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":23833,"comment_status":"close","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-23831","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-lifestyle"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23831","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=23831"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23831\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":23834,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23831\/revisions\/23834"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/23833"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=23831"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=23831"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=23831"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}