{"id":18469,"date":"2024-12-17T09:00:04","date_gmt":"2024-12-17T10:00:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=18469"},"modified":"2024-12-17T10:23:31","modified_gmt":"2024-12-17T10:23:31","slug":"how-to-loosen-up-at-a-party-without-alcohol","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=18469","title":{"rendered":"How to Loosen Up at a Party Without Alcohol"},"content":{"rendered":"<div><\/div>\n<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\" data-testid=\"companionColumn-0\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">It doesn\u2019t matter why you\u2019ve chosen not to drink this holiday season: Your reasons are your own, and they are good enough. But regardless of whether you are sober year-round or you\u2019re just giving yourself a break in December, you are likely facing a series of festive occasions that test your will to make merry with nothing but your unadulterated personality and an ugly sweater. Scrooge may have faced three spirits, but none of them were the Ghost of Christmas Small Talk.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">To avoid the awkwardness, you might be tempted to just stay in. \u201cWe know how nice it is to curl up on the couch,\u201d said Elizabeth Dunn, a happiness researcher and professor of psychology at the University of British Columbia. But, she added, we consistently underestimate how enjoyable it is to go out and talk to people. \u201cWe are social creatures,\u201d she said. \u201cThe No. 1 predictor of happiness is a <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2023\/01\/01\/well\/happiness-challenge-relationships.html\" title>feeling of social connection<\/a>.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Those connections don\u2019t even have to be deep or lasting to improve your mood. Experts say that small talk, the much maligned fuel of office holiday parties and \u201cI haven\u2019t seen you since last year\u201d annual gatherings, is something that might actually bring you pleasure \u2014 no alcohol required. Here are some tips to consider.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"css-1u37br4 eoo0vm40\" id=\"link-65346812\">Prepare Yourself to Love It<\/h2>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">People worry a lot before talking to acquaintances, \u201cbut they worry more than they should, because when they do <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.sciencedirect.com\/science\/article\/pii\/S0022103122000750\" title rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">talk to strangers<\/a>, they enjoy it way more than they expect to,\u201d said Gillian Sandstrom, a senior lecturer in psychology at the University of Sussex in England who studies the benefits of social interactions with \u201c<a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2019\/05\/06\/smarter-living\/why-you-need-a-network-of-low-stakes-casual-friendships.html\" title>weak ties<\/a>\u201d \u2014 just the kind you tend to have at parties.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div data-testid=\"Dropzone-1\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\" data-testid=\"companionColumn-1\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Part of reaping those benefits is adopting the right spirit. \u201cMy clothes have a lot to do with how I get ready for a party,\u201d said Laurel Pantin, a fashion stylist and writer who has been sober since the spring. \u201cIf I\u2019m going to be self-conscious, it\u2019s not going to be about my outfit.\u201d Ms. Pantin also said that being empty-handed can make her feel awkward, so she has embraced nonalcoholic beers and Phony Negronis. She also recommended having a quick answer prepared if the topic of drinking \u2014 or not drinking \u2014 comes up. \u201cI just tell people it doesn\u2019t make me feel good,\u201d she said. \u201cI keep it simple.\u201d<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"css-1u37br4 eoo0vm40\" id=\"link-7ce0a58e\">Get Out of Your Own Way<\/h2>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Behavioral science has frustratingly little to say on the best way to make yourself feel looser and less inhibited without the aid of substances. True loss of inhibition may be too much to ask of your sober self, but you can absolutely get out of your own head \u2014 and out of your own way.<\/p>\n<div class=\"css-1336jj\">\n<div class=\"css-121kum4\">\n<div class=\"css-171d1bw\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"css-asuuk5\">\n<div class=\"css-7axq9l\" data-testid=\"optimistic-truncator-noscript\">\n<div data-testid=\"optimistic-truncator-noscript-message\" class=\"css-6yo1no\">\n<p class=\"css-3kpklk\">We are having trouble retrieving the article content.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-3kpklk\">Please enable JavaScript in your browser settings.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"css-1dv1kvn\" id=\"optimistic-truncator-a11y\">\n<hr \/>\n<p>Thank you for your patience while we verify access. 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But regardless of whether you are sober year-round or you\u2019re just giving yourself a break in December, you are likely facing a series of festive occasions that test your will to make merry with nothing but your unadulterated personality and an ugly sweater. Scrooge may have faced three spirits, but none of them were the Ghost of Christmas Small Talk.To avoid the awkwardness, you might be tempted to just stay in. \u201cWe know how nice it is to curl up on the couch,\u201d said Elizabeth Dunn, a happiness researcher and professor of psychology at the University of British Columbia. But, she added, we consistently underestimate how enjoyable it is to go out and talk to people. \u201cWe are social creatures,\u201d she said. \u201cThe No. 1 predictor of happiness is a feeling of social connection.\u201dThose connections don\u2019t even have to be deep or lasting to improve your mood. Experts say that small talk, the much maligned fuel of office holiday parties and \u201cI haven\u2019t seen you since last year\u201d annual gatherings, is something that might actually bring you pleasure \u2014 no alcohol required. Here are some tips to consider.Prepare Yourself to Love ItPeople worry a lot before talking to acquaintances, \u201cbut they worry more than they should, because when they do talk to strangers, they enjoy it way more than they expect to,\u201d said Gillian Sandstrom, a senior lecturer in psychology at the University of Sussex in England who studies the benefits of social interactions with \u201cweak ties\u201d \u2014 just the kind you tend to have at parties.Part of reaping those benefits is adopting the right spirit. \u201cMy clothes have a lot to do with how I get ready for a party,\u201d said Laurel Pantin, a fashion stylist and writer who has been sober since the spring. \u201cIf I\u2019m going to be self-conscious, it\u2019s not going to be about my outfit.\u201d Ms. Pantin also said that being empty-handed can make her feel awkward, so she has embraced nonalcoholic beers and Phony Negronis. She also recommended having a quick answer prepared if the topic of drinking \u2014 or not drinking \u2014 comes up. \u201cI just tell people it doesn\u2019t make me feel good,\u201d she said. \u201cI keep it simple.\u201dGet Out of Your Own WayBehavioral science has frustratingly little to say on the best way to make yourself feel looser and less inhibited without the aid of substances. True loss of inhibition may be too much to ask of your sober self, but you can absolutely get out of your own head \u2014 and out of your own way.We are having trouble retrieving the article content.Please enable JavaScript in your browser settings.Thank you for your patience while we verify access. 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