{"id":15126,"date":"2024-10-22T09:05:50","date_gmt":"2024-10-22T09:05:50","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=15126"},"modified":"2024-10-22T09:26:14","modified_gmt":"2024-10-22T09:26:14","slug":"new-yorks-old-guard-meets-feeld-a-very-sex-positive-dating-app","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=15126","title":{"rendered":"New York\u2019s Old Guard Meets Feeld, a Very Sex-Positive Dating App"},"content":{"rendered":"
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On an October evening, in the lobby of an old building just off Park Avenue in Manhattan, a uniformed doorman led a few writers and editors into a hand-crank elevator. They had come for a party that would bring together the literary establishment and people involved in Feeld, a kink-friendly dating app. When the doorman brought the elevator to a stop on the ninth floor, the guests could hear the din of boisterous conversation emerging from an apartment in the hall.<\/p>\n

The party was hosted by Daphne Merkin<\/a>, a critic, novelist and journalist who has distinguished herself over a 50-year career as a frank chronicler of the cultured class. Somewhat to her annoyance, her best-known piece might be something she wrote nearly 30 years ago \u2014 \u201cUnlikely Obsession<\/a>,\u201d an essay for The New Yorker in which she wrestled with her desire to be spanked.<\/p>\n

\u201cI still get fatigued when people bring up the spanking essay,\u201d Ms. Merkin said as the guests arrived. \u201cI\u2019ve written so many other pieces on sex, and I\u2019ve written so much else. But still I believe sex is not written about well enough \u2014 this basic human experience \u2014 so I was glad to be asked to host this party for a new erotica magazine published by a dating app called Feeld.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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In its original incarnation, under the name 3nder, Feeld<\/a> matched singles and couples with those looking for threesomes. These days it bills itself as the \u201cdating app for the curious\u201d and sets itself apart from its many competitors by providing users with options for polyamory, bondage and even celibacy. Those who sign up can also select from a wide range of gender and identity preferences, from gender fluid to two-spirit.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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The writer Daphne Merkin, who hosted the Feeld party, in a book-lined room of her Manhattan apartment.<\/span>Lanna Apisukh for The New York Times<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Now Feeld has started a handsome biannual print magazine, AFM<\/a>, which is where Ms. Merkin, 70, comes in. Her reputation as someone who has written intelligently about sex, along with her roomy book-lined Upper East Side apartment, made her the perfect host for an intimate launch party.<\/p>\n

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On an October evening, in the lobby of an old building just off Park Avenue in Manhattan, a uniformed doorman led a few writers and editors into a hand-crank elevator. They had come for a party that would bring together the literary establishment and people involved in Feeld, a kink-friendly dating app. When the doorman brought the elevator to a stop on the ninth floor, the guests could hear the din of boisterous conversation emerging from an apartment in the hall.The party was hosted by Daphne Merkin, a critic, novelist and journalist who has distinguished herself over a 50-year career as a frank chronicler of the cultured class. Somewhat to her annoyance, her best-known piece might be something she wrote nearly 30 years ago \u2014 \u201cUnlikely Obsession,\u201d an essay for The New Yorker in which she wrestled with her desire to be spanked.\u201cI still get fatigued when people bring up the spanking essay,\u201d Ms. Merkin said as the guests arrived. \u201cI\u2019ve written so many other pieces on sex, and I\u2019ve written so much else. But still I believe sex is not written about well enough \u2014 this basic human experience \u2014 so I was glad to be asked to host this party for a new erotica magazine published by a dating app called Feeld.\u201dIn its original incarnation, under the name 3nder, Feeld matched singles and couples with those looking for threesomes. These days it bills itself as the \u201cdating app for the curious\u201d and sets itself apart from its many competitors by providing users with options for polyamory, bondage and even celibacy. Those who sign up can also select from a wide range of gender and identity preferences, from gender fluid to two-spirit.The writer Daphne Merkin, who hosted the Feeld party, in a book-lined room of her Manhattan apartment.Lanna Apisukh for The New York TimesNow Feeld has started a handsome biannual print magazine, AFM, which is where Ms. Merkin, 70, comes in. Her reputation as someone who has written intelligently about sex, along with her roomy book-lined Upper East Side apartment, made her the perfect host for an intimate launch party.We are having trouble retrieving the article content.Please enable JavaScript in your browser settings.Thank you for your patience while we verify access. If you are in Reader mode please exit and\u00a0log into\u00a0your Times account, or\u00a0subscribe\u00a0for all of The Times.Thank you for your patience while we verify access.Already a subscriber?\u00a0Log in.Want all of The Times?\u00a0Subscribe.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":15128,"comment_status":"close","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-15126","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-technology"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15126","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=15126"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15126\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":15129,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15126\/revisions\/15129"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/15128"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=15126"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=15126"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=15126"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}