{"id":12709,"date":"2024-09-10T17:52:31","date_gmt":"2024-09-10T17:52:31","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=12709"},"modified":"2024-09-10T18:25:26","modified_gmt":"2024-09-10T18:25:26","slug":"questions-to-ask-your-partner-at-midlife-according-to-couples-counselors","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=12709","title":{"rendered":"Questions to Ask Your Partner at Midlife, According to Couples Counselors"},"content":{"rendered":"<div><\/div>\n<p id=\"article-summary\" class=\"css-79rysd e1wiw3jv0\">Therapists and relationship researchers share 6 questions that can bring couples closer during this stage.<\/p>\n<section class=\"meteredContent css-1r7ky0e\">\n<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\" data-testid=\"companionColumn-0\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Midlife can be a weird time. Maybe you\u2019re grappling <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/interactive\/2024\/06\/24\/well\/live\/midlife-health-body-changes-guide.html\" title>with new aches and pains or brain fog<\/a>. Perhaps you\u2019re one of the 2.5 million <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2020\/02\/11\/parenting\/sandwich-generation-costs.html\" title>sandwich generation<\/a> caregivers simultaneously caring for children and aging parents. Maybe you\u2019re having an identity crisis, <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2024\/01\/26\/well\/live\/midlife-crisis-age-celebrate.html\" title>maybe not<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Middle age lands somewhere <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/dictionary.apa.org\/adulthood\" title rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">between 36 and 64<\/a>, or maybe <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.merriam-webster.com\/dictionary\/the%20middle-aged\" title rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">40 to 60<\/a>, depending on whom you ask. It is also an inflection point in relationships, experts say, a time when many couples emerge from the daily grind of building careers and a family, and find that they\u2019re in a union they no longer fully recognize. Rates of \u201cgray divorce\u201d among adults over 50 <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.pewresearch.org\/short-reads\/2017\/03\/09\/led-by-baby-boomers-divorce-rates-climb-for-americas-50-population\/\" title rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">have doubled<\/a> in the United States since the 1990s.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">\u201cIf you have children, your children are typically launching,\u201d said Linda Hershman, the author of \u201cGray Divorce\u201d and a licensed marriage and family therapist based in Pennsylvania. \u201cCouples are suddenly turning around and looking at each other and thinking: What is this marriage about, and what is this marriage going to be about?\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">We asked Ms. Hershman and other relationship experts to offer some big-picture questions that middle-aged couples can discuss \u2014 or can ask themselves \u2014 to help them better understand their relationships, and what they want.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div data-testid=\"Dropzone-1\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\" data-testid=\"companionColumn-1\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<h2 class=\"css-1u37br4 eoo0vm40\" id=\"link-1094f48d\">What is our next chapter?<\/h2>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Orna Guralnik, a Manhattan-based clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst who stars in the Showtime documentary series \u201cCouples Therapy,\u201d encourages her clients to consider their plans for the third chapter of their relationships (when the marriage is neither fresh and new, nor consumed by domestic demands).<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">It\u2019s a conversation she sees many couples having organically, particularly those in their 50s and 60s whose children have left home. \u201cWhere are they going to turn that attention?\u201d she often asks. \u201cAnd how is that going to inflect the couple?\u201d<\/p>\n<div class=\"css-1336jj\">\n<div class=\"css-121kum4\">\n<div class=\"css-171d1bw\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"css-asuuk5\">\n<div class=\"css-7axq9l\" data-testid=\"optimistic-truncator-noscript\">\n<div data-testid=\"optimistic-truncator-noscript-message\" class=\"css-6yo1no\">\n<p class=\"css-3kpklk\">We are having trouble retrieving the article content.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-3kpklk\">Please enable JavaScript in your browser settings.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"css-1dv1kvn\" id=\"optimistic-truncator-a11y\">\n<hr \/>\n<p>Thank you for your patience while we verify access. 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Maybe you\u2019re grappling with new aches and pains or brain fog. Perhaps you\u2019re one of the 2.5 million sandwich generation caregivers simultaneously caring for children and aging parents. Maybe you\u2019re having an identity crisis, maybe not.Middle age lands somewhere between 36 and 64, or maybe 40 to 60, depending on whom you ask. It is also an inflection point in relationships, experts say, a time when many couples emerge from the daily grind of building careers and a family, and find that they\u2019re in a union they no longer fully recognize. Rates of \u201cgray divorce\u201d among adults over 50 have doubled in the United States since the 1990s.\u201cIf you have children, your children are typically launching,\u201d said Linda Hershman, the author of \u201cGray Divorce\u201d and a licensed marriage and family therapist based in Pennsylvania. \u201cCouples are suddenly turning around and looking at each other and thinking: What is this marriage about, and what is this marriage going to be about?\u201dWe asked Ms. Hershman and other relationship experts to offer some big-picture questions that middle-aged couples can discuss \u2014 or can ask themselves \u2014 to help them better understand their relationships, and what they want.What is our next chapter?Orna Guralnik, a Manhattan-based clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst who stars in the Showtime documentary series \u201cCouples Therapy,\u201d encourages her clients to consider their plans for the third chapter of their relationships (when the marriage is neither fresh and new, nor consumed by domestic demands).It\u2019s a conversation she sees many couples having organically, particularly those in their 50s and 60s whose children have left home. \u201cWhere are they going to turn that attention?\u201d she often asks. \u201cAnd how is that going to inflect the couple?\u201dWe are having trouble retrieving the article content.Please enable JavaScript in your browser settings.Thank you for your patience while we verify access. 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