{"id":12113,"date":"2024-08-30T09:07:22","date_gmt":"2024-08-30T09:07:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=12113"},"modified":"2024-08-30T09:24:23","modified_gmt":"2024-08-30T09:24:23","slug":"how-to-be-more-resilient-according-to-experts","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=12113","title":{"rendered":"How to be More Resilient, According to Experts"},"content":{"rendered":"<div><\/div>\n<p id=\"article-summary\" data-testid=\"onsite-summary\" class=\"css-79rysd e1wiw3jv0\">These days, getting cut off in traffic can send me on an emotional rollercoaster. So I asked experts how to get mentally tougher.<\/p>\n<section class=\"meteredContent css-1r7ky0e\">\n<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\" data-testid=\"companionColumn-0\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-798hid etfikam0\">Erik Vance, who writes and edits stories about fitness (among other things), is filling in for Jancee Dunn today.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">I\u2019ve noticed I am becoming less resilient as I age. Insults used to bounce off me; I could move to a new city at the drop of a hat. Now I stew for days about a social media slight and can barely change my hair without fretting.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">It\u2019s a flaw \u2014 one I want to <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2021\/09\/01\/parenting\/raising-resilient-kids.html\" title>help my young son avoid<\/a> by <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2023\/10\/31\/well\/family\/resilience-building-child-psychology.html\" title>exposing him<\/a> to challenges that will help him confront adversity without melting down. I know it\u2019s hypocritical \u2014 the very essence of \u201cdo as I say, not as I do.\u201d Before I raise a resilient kid, I should probably raise a resilient me.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">I have my coping mechanisms: Intense exercise, getting out into nature or distracting my brain with a Rubik\u2019s Cube can all keep me from spinning out. But these feel like Band-Aids, not real grit.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">So I called a few experts to find out how I can become tougher. What I discovered was that my view of resilience was all wrong.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div data-testid=\"Dropzone-1\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\" data-testid=\"companionColumn-1\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<h2 class=\"css-1u37br4 eoo0vm40\" id=\"link-98eef4b\">Wait, what is resilience again?<\/h2>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Defining resilience is tricky. Some frame it as the ability to stand up to adversity; others describe it as an ability to bounce back; still others liken it to adaptability.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Words like grit and positivity get thrown around a lot, too. But these terms suggest a sort of tough-guy stiff upper lip that doesn\u2019t often work in the long term, said Michael Ungar, a professor of social work at Dalhousie University in Canada and expert in resilience. Instead, he said, it\u2019s multiple \u201cprocesses that will make it possible for you to thrive under stress.\u201d<\/p>\n<div class=\"css-1336jj\">\n<div class=\"css-121kum4\">\n<div class=\"css-171d1bw\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"css-asuuk5\">\n<div class=\"css-7axq9l\" data-testid=\"optimistic-truncator-noscript\">\n<div data-testid=\"optimistic-truncator-noscript-message\" class=\"css-6yo1no\">\n<p class=\"css-3kpklk\">We are having trouble retrieving the article content.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-3kpklk\">Please enable JavaScript in your browser settings.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"css-1dv1kvn\" id=\"optimistic-truncator-a11y\">\n<hr \/>\n<p>Thank you for your patience while we verify access. 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So I asked experts how to get mentally tougher.Erik Vance, who writes and edits stories about fitness (among other things), is filling in for Jancee Dunn today.I\u2019ve noticed I am becoming less resilient as I age. Insults used to bounce off me; I could move to a new city at the drop of a hat. Now I stew for days about a social media slight and can barely change my hair without fretting.It\u2019s a flaw \u2014 one I want to help my young son avoid by exposing him to challenges that will help him confront adversity without melting down. I know it\u2019s hypocritical \u2014 the very essence of \u201cdo as I say, not as I do.\u201d Before I raise a resilient kid, I should probably raise a resilient me.I have my coping mechanisms: Intense exercise, getting out into nature or distracting my brain with a Rubik\u2019s Cube can all keep me from spinning out. But these feel like Band-Aids, not real grit.So I called a few experts to find out how I can become tougher. What I discovered was that my view of resilience was all wrong.Wait, what is resilience again?Defining resilience is tricky. Some frame it as the ability to stand up to adversity; others describe it as an ability to bounce back; still others liken it to adaptability.Words like grit and positivity get thrown around a lot, too. But these terms suggest a sort of tough-guy stiff upper lip that doesn\u2019t often work in the long term, said Michael Ungar, a professor of social work at Dalhousie University in Canada and expert in resilience. Instead, he said, it\u2019s multiple \u201cprocesses that will make it possible for you to thrive under stress.\u201dWe are having trouble retrieving the article content.Please enable JavaScript in your browser settings.Thank you for your patience while we verify access. 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