{"id":11587,"date":"2024-08-21T00:37:01","date_gmt":"2024-08-21T00:37:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=11587"},"modified":"2024-08-21T01:27:07","modified_gmt":"2024-08-21T01:27:07","slug":"as-lopez-files-for-divorce-from-affleck-should-you-reunite-with-an-ex-partner","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=11587","title":{"rendered":"As Lopez Files for Divorce From Affleck, Should You Reunite With an Ex-Partner?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div><\/div>\n<p id=\"article-summary\" class=\"css-79rysd e1wiw3jv0\">As Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck show, rekindling an old romance is risky. We asked couples counselors what you should ask before diving back in.<\/p>\n<section class=\"meteredContent css-1r7ky0e\">\n<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">When the superstars Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck married in 2022, decades after calling off their initial engagement, it seemed like the stuff of a romantic Hollywood blockbuster.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">\u201cLove is beautiful,\u201d <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2022\/07\/17\/arts\/jennifer-lopez-ben-affleck-married.html\" title>Ms. Lopez wrote after<\/a> the couple\u2019s Las Vegas nuptials. \u201cLove is kind. And it turns out love is patient. Twenty years patient.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">But Ms. Lopez filed for divorce from Mr. Affleck on Tuesday after two years of marriage, ending <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2024\/06\/05\/style\/jennifer-lopez-ben-affleck-relationship.html\" title>months of frenzied media speculation<\/a> about their shaky union, and highlighting a decidedly unromantic truth: Reuniting with an ex-partner does not guarantee a happy ending.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">\u201cI have certainly seen people who are in long-term happy relationships who got back together after having broken up,\u201d said Elizabeth Earnshaw, a licensed marriage and family therapist in Philadelphia. \u201cI would say that is the exception to the rule.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Many couples counselors said they recommended taking an almost clinical approach to reuniting with an ex \u2014 even (or especially) if you are swept up in the thrill of rediscovering old passions. Here are four questions therapists recommend asking.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"css-1u37br4 eoo0vm40\" id=\"link-52529dd6\">1. Do we both understand why we broke up?<\/h2>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">That is a \u201claughably obvious\u201d question to start with, admitted Lisa Marie Bobby, a licensed marriage and family therapist in Denver and the founder of Growing Self, a counseling and coaching service. 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We asked couples counselors what you should ask before diving back in.When the superstars Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck married in 2022, decades after calling off their initial engagement, it seemed like the stuff of a romantic Hollywood blockbuster.\u201cLove is beautiful,\u201d Ms. Lopez wrote after the couple\u2019s Las Vegas nuptials. \u201cLove is kind. And it turns out love is patient. Twenty years patient.\u201dBut Ms. Lopez filed for divorce from Mr. Affleck on Tuesday after two years of marriage, ending months of frenzied media speculation about their shaky union, and highlighting a decidedly unromantic truth: Reuniting with an ex-partner does not guarantee a happy ending.\u201cI have certainly seen people who are in long-term happy relationships who got back together after having broken up,\u201d said Elizabeth Earnshaw, a licensed marriage and family therapist in Philadelphia. \u201cI would say that is the exception to the rule.\u201dMany couples counselors said they recommended taking an almost clinical approach to reuniting with an ex \u2014 even (or especially) if you are swept up in the thrill of rediscovering old passions. Here are four questions therapists recommend asking.1. Do we both understand why we broke up?That is a \u201claughably obvious\u201d question to start with, admitted Lisa Marie Bobby, a licensed marriage and family therapist in Denver and the founder of Growing Self, a counseling and coaching service. But if you and your partner cannot both articulate a clear answer without defensiveness or tension, that is a red flag, she said.We are having trouble retrieving the article content.Please enable JavaScript in your browser settings.Thank you for your patience while we verify access. 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