{"id":8937,"date":"2024-07-03T09:02:25","date_gmt":"2024-07-03T09:02:25","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=8937"},"modified":"2024-07-03T09:24:40","modified_gmt":"2024-07-03T09:24:40","slug":"the-best-relationship-advice-weve-heard-this-year-from-the-experts","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=8937","title":{"rendered":"The Best Relationship Advice We\u2019ve Heard This Year From the Experts"},"content":{"rendered":"<div><\/div>\n<p id=\"article-summary\" class=\"css-79rysd e1wiw3jv0\">Whether you want to get comfortable talking about sex or become an ace apologizer, these tips are for you.<\/p>\n<section class=\"meteredContent css-1r7ky0e\">\n<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Romantic relationships can be a source of deep joy and satisfaction \u2014 and also a real pain to navigate.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">As reporters who cover relationships for Well, we\u2019re fortunate to spend hours every week talking to researchers, couples counselors and sex therapists who are some of the leading experts on love and who have seemingly endless wisdom to share. (Are our own relationships better for it? You\u2019d have to ask our partners.)<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Here is some of the most helpful advice we have heard this year so far, whether you are looking to find new ways of connecting, to spice up your sex life or simply to strengthen your partnership.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<h2 class=\"css-1u37br4 eoo0vm40\" id=\"link-6fee0fa3\">1. Learn to give a satisfying apology (in six simple steps).<\/h2>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Saying we are sorry can be difficult because it requires vulnerability and humility, said Lisa Leopold, who researches apologies. She and other experts <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2024\/02\/16\/well\/live\/apology-tips.html\" title>distilled a good apology to six steps<\/a>:<\/p>\n<ul class=\"css-1le37cb ez3869y0\">\n<li class=\"css-1i3ul0c eoqvrfo0\">\n<p class=\"css-1il0jfh evys1bk0\">First, say \u201cI apologize\u201d or \u201cI\u2019m sorry.\u201d Using an \u201cI\u201d statement strengthens your apology by taking responsibility, Ms. Leopold said.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul class=\"css-1le37cb ez3869y0\">\n<li class=\"css-1i3ul0c eoqvrfo0\">\n<p class=\"css-1il0jfh evys1bk0\">Second, explain why you\u2019re sorry \u2014 being specific about what you\u2019ve done can make the other person feel understood, said Beth Polin, another academic who studies apologies.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li class=\"css-1i3ul0c eoqvrfo0\">\n<p class=\"css-1il0jfh evys1bk0\">Third, acknowledge any harm you\u2019ve caused.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li class=\"css-1i3ul0c eoqvrfo0\">\n<p class=\"css-1il0jfh evys1bk0\">Fourth, vow not to do it again (if that\u2019s realistic).<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li class=\"css-1i3ul0c eoqvrfo0\">\n<p class=\"css-1il0jfh evys1bk0\">Fifth, offer to repair the situation.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li class=\"css-1i3ul0c eoqvrfo0\">\n<p class=\"css-1il0jfh evys1bk0\">Finally, let the person know that you desire their <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2024\/06\/27\/well\/mind\/forgiveness-healing-peace.html\" title>forgiveness<\/a>, not because you want to wriggle off the hook, but \u201cbecause of how much you care about them,\u201d said Karina Schumann, a social psychologist who specializes in conflict resolution.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">For a show of remorse to be truly effective, it should be focused on the other person\u2019s feelings and needs, not your own, Dr. Schumann said.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div>\n<div data-testid=\"lazy-loader\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<h2 class=\"css-1u37br4 eoo0vm40\" id=\"link-1634d9f0\">2. Embrace those awkward sex talks.<\/h2>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Some couples find the prospect of having a <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2024\/05\/17\/well\/family\/sex-intimacy-couples.html\" title>frank conversation about sex<\/a> so uncomfortable, they\u2019d rather split up than attempt it, said Jeffrey Chernin, a therapist in Los Angeles. 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(Are our own relationships better for it? You\u2019d have to ask our partners.)Here is some of the most helpful advice we have heard this year so far, whether you are looking to find new ways of connecting, to spice up your sex life or simply to strengthen your partnership.1. Learn to give a satisfying apology (in six simple steps).Saying we are sorry can be difficult because it requires vulnerability and humility, said Lisa Leopold, who researches apologies. She and other experts distilled a good apology to six steps:First, say \u201cI apologize\u201d or \u201cI\u2019m sorry.\u201d Using an \u201cI\u201d statement strengthens your apology by taking responsibility, Ms. Leopold said.Second, explain why you\u2019re sorry \u2014 being specific about what you\u2019ve done can make the other person feel understood, said Beth Polin, another academic who studies apologies.Third, acknowledge any harm you\u2019ve caused.Fourth, vow not to do it again (if that\u2019s realistic).Fifth, offer to repair the situation.Finally, let the person know that you desire their forgiveness, not because you want to wriggle off the hook, but \u201cbecause of how much you care about them,\u201d said Karina Schumann, a social psychologist who specializes in conflict resolution.For a show of remorse to be truly effective, it should be focused on the other person\u2019s feelings and needs, not your own, Dr. Schumann said.2. Embrace those awkward sex talks.Some couples find the prospect of having a frank conversation about sex so uncomfortable, they\u2019d rather split up than attempt it, said Jeffrey Chernin, a therapist in Los Angeles. But he often tells his clients that the only way to have better sex is to talk about it.We are having trouble retrieving the article content.Please enable JavaScript in your browser settings.Thank you for your patience while we verify access. 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