{"id":8582,"date":"2024-06-27T09:01:37","date_gmt":"2024-06-27T09:01:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=8582"},"modified":"2024-06-27T09:26:35","modified_gmt":"2024-06-27T09:26:35","slug":"forgiveness-isnt-always-the-answer-according-to-experts","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=8582","title":{"rendered":"Forgiveness Isn\u2019t Always the Answer According to Experts"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Extending an olive branch can be healthy, but experts say it isn\u2019t something people should feel pressured to do.<\/p>\n

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One of Amanda Gregory\u2019s warmest childhood memories is a game that she played with her two brothers. They called it \u201ccockroach hunt.\u201d<\/p>\n

It involved racing into the kitchen at night, flicking on the lights and trying to smash cockroaches with their bare feet before the bugs could scatter.<\/p>\n

Neither her mother nor her father bothered to clean, she recalled, leaving the house filthy \u2014 floors thick with grime and carpets reeking of cat urine. And they rarely spoke to their children.<\/p>\n

One day, she injured her knee, and her parents seemed more annoyed than concerned, she said. Eventually she learned to live with the pain. Decades later, Ms. Gregory found out that bone chips were left floating in her joint, a problem that required surgery.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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When she was growing up, none of this seemed unusual. It wasn\u2019t until much later in life, after becoming a trauma therapist in Chicago, that Ms. Gregory realized to what extent her parents\u2019 physical and emotional neglect had affected her. In the course of her own therapy, she began to wonder: \u201cDo I need to forgive to make more progress in my recovery?\u201d<\/p>\n

She is one of several therapists, writers and scholars questioning the conventional wisdom that it\u2019s always better to forgive. In the process, they are redefining forgiveness, while also erasing the pressure to do it.<\/p>\n

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Extending an olive branch can be healthy, but experts say it isn\u2019t something people should feel pressured to do.One of Amanda Gregory\u2019s warmest childhood memories is a game that she played with her two brothers. They called it \u201ccockroach hunt.\u201dIt involved racing into the kitchen at night, flicking on the lights and trying to smash cockroaches with their bare feet before the bugs could scatter.Neither her mother nor her father bothered to clean, she recalled, leaving the house filthy \u2014 floors thick with grime and carpets reeking of cat urine. And they rarely spoke to their children.One day, she injured her knee, and her parents seemed more annoyed than concerned, she said. Eventually she learned to live with the pain. Decades later, Ms. Gregory found out that bone chips were left floating in her joint, a problem that required surgery.When she was growing up, none of this seemed unusual. It wasn\u2019t until much later in life, after becoming a trauma therapist in Chicago, that Ms. Gregory realized to what extent her parents\u2019 physical and emotional neglect had affected her. In the course of her own therapy, she began to wonder: \u201cDo I need to forgive to make more progress in my recovery?\u201dShe is one of several therapists, writers and scholars questioning the conventional wisdom that it\u2019s always better to forgive. In the process, they are redefining forgiveness, while also erasing the pressure to do it.We are having trouble retrieving the article content.Please enable JavaScript in your browser settings.Thank you for your patience while we verify access. If you are in Reader mode please exit and\u00a0log into\u00a0your Times account, or\u00a0subscribe\u00a0for all of The Times.Thank you for your patience while we verify access.Already a subscriber?\u00a0Log in.Want all of The Times?\u00a0Subscribe.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":8584,"comment_status":"close","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-8582","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-lifestyle"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8582","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=8582"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"http:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8582\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8585,"href":"http:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8582\/revisions\/8585"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/8584"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=8582"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=8582"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/medexperts.pro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=8582"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}