{"id":7789,"date":"2024-06-13T22:12:42","date_gmt":"2024-06-13T22:12:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=7789"},"modified":"2024-06-13T22:24:37","modified_gmt":"2024-06-13T22:24:37","slug":"the-friendship-challenge-try-these-questions-for-deeper-platonic-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/medexperts.pro\/?p=7789","title":{"rendered":"The Friendship Challenge: Try These Questions for Deeper Platonic Relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"<div><\/div>\n<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\"><em class=\"css-2fg4z9 e1gzwzxm0\">This is the final day of the 5-Day Friendship Challenge. To start at the beginning, <\/em><a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/explain\/2024\/friendship-challenge\" title><em class=\"css-2fg4z9 e1gzwzxm0\">click here<\/em><\/a>.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">The friendship experts I interviewed for this challenge all mentioned, in one form or another, how important vulnerability is to forming close connections. If you want <a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2023\/02\/14\/well\/family\/friendship-platonic-love.html\" title>big, deep platonic love<\/a> in your life, you must be willing to put yourself out there emotionally.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">Those therapists and researchers also acknowledged that the very idea of vulnerability makes a lot of us squirm.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">\u201cYou risk rejection, exposure, judgment,\u201d said Hope Kelaher, a licensed clinical social worker in private practice in New York City and the author of \u201cHere to Make Friends.\u201d \u201cBut it is the core component of any deep emotional intimacy.\u201d<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"css-1u37br4 eoo0vm40\" id=\"link-63209f12\">Friendship Challenge Day 5: Be vulnerable with a friend.<\/h2>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">\u201cExpose myself emotionally\u201d probably wasn\u2019t on your to-do list when you woke up, so here are a few ideas to help you start.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div class=\"css-s99gbd StoryBodyCompanionColumn\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\"><strong class=\"css-8qgvsz ebyp5n10\">Ask a probing question (or 36 of them). <\/strong>Nearly a decade ago, The New York Times ran the article \u201c<a class=\"css-yywogo\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2015\/01\/09\/style\/no-37-big-wedding-or-small.html\" title>The 36 Questions That Lead to Love<\/a>\u201d \u2014 which included a set of, yes, 36 questions that could help accelerate intimacy.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-at9mc1 evys1bk0\">The questions had been generated for a study by researchers including Arthur Aron, a professor of psychology at Stony Brook University. Dr. Aron told me that he and his team had developed the questions to test whether they could create closeness between strangers, but there is growing evidence they can increase closeness between friends and romantic partners, too. Running through the full set takes about 45 minutes, and the questions get progressively deeper. Answer them with a friend to help foster mutual vulnerability.<\/p>\n<div class=\"css-1336jj\">\n<div class=\"css-121kum4\">\n<div class=\"css-171d1bw\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"css-asuuk5\">\n<div class=\"css-7axq9l\" data-testid=\"optimistic-truncator-noscript\">\n<div data-testid=\"optimistic-truncator-noscript-message\" class=\"css-6yo1no\">\n<p class=\"css-3kpklk\">We are having trouble retrieving the article content.<\/p>\n<p class=\"css-3kpklk\">Please enable JavaScript in your browser settings.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"css-1dv1kvn\" id=\"optimistic-truncator-a11y\">\n<hr \/>\n<p>Thank you for your patience while we verify access. 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To start at the beginning, click here.The friendship experts I interviewed for this challenge all mentioned, in one form or another, how important vulnerability is to forming close connections. If you want big, deep platonic love in your life, you must be willing to put yourself out there emotionally.Those therapists and researchers also acknowledged that the very idea of vulnerability makes a lot of us squirm.\u201cYou risk rejection, exposure, judgment,\u201d said Hope Kelaher, a licensed clinical social worker in private practice in New York City and the author of \u201cHere to Make Friends.\u201d \u201cBut it is the core component of any deep emotional intimacy.\u201dFriendship Challenge Day 5: Be vulnerable with a friend.\u201cExpose myself emotionally\u201d probably wasn\u2019t on your to-do list when you woke up, so here are a few ideas to help you start.Ask a probing question (or 36 of them). Nearly a decade ago, The New York Times ran the article \u201cThe 36 Questions That Lead to Love\u201d \u2014 which included a set of, yes, 36 questions that could help accelerate intimacy.The questions had been generated for a study by researchers including Arthur Aron, a professor of psychology at Stony Brook University. Dr. Aron told me that he and his team had developed the questions to test whether they could create closeness between strangers, but there is growing evidence they can increase closeness between friends and romantic partners, too. Running through the full set takes about 45 minutes, and the questions get progressively deeper. Answer them with a friend to help foster mutual vulnerability.We are having trouble retrieving the article content.Please enable JavaScript in your browser settings.Thank you for your patience while we verify access. 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